NewStats: 3,264,823 , 8,184,812 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 01:24 PM 4x62f

Kgdavid:

spending a lot means they deserve success??

In business when you spend, you expect returns!!!! so I expect Manchester City to finish fourth!!!

mystikal:

I do think now that Madrid will win the spanish league considering the fact thay they'll be out of the champions league on wednesday!

You didn't tell me that you're Rev. King, you dey see vision!!! Who tell you say RealMadrid go loose on Wednesday Watch out I can't shout!!!

Hell NO!!!

I missed her ionate kiss

You where dating a guy/girl, you didn’t know, weeks to your wedding he/she tells you the truth, cuz he/she doesn’t want to hold anything in his/her mind in the marriage would you still go ahead and marry him/her or would you simply call of the wedding?

idleness cuzed these, am not supposed to visit this post!!!!

If could be you're the nagging type, check yourself out, I believe the fault might be from you .

When you where having intimacy without condom with her, didn't your brain tell you she could get pregnant? Man face it you're a prospective father, when the baby comes inform me so that I'll come for the naming ceremony .

Guy don't let her control you, if she can't work with your brother, she can go work elsewhere!!!

NaUSabi:

Well I think the related topic (https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/nigeria/topic-158.0.html) is so crowded and did not really address my concerns so i'll explain properly and hope for fresh opinions.
So please Oga s please spare us this one it's not a duplicate but an attempt to a more focused discussion


There's this general belief that premarital intimacy is so bad and as a mater of fact it's a crime to society.


Questions:

1. What if you find out after marriage that your partner's sexual appetite does not come close to yours ?
a. Do you become unreasonable and demand it anyway even if your partner is disgusted/exhausted/not into your thing ?
b. Do you go out looking for satisfaction outside marriage
c. Do you live the rest of your life knowing that part of your life will never be fulfilled till the day you die.

2. What happens if you find out after marriage that you man can't get it up for some reason beyond his control(may be medical or Mental conditions)
a. Do you get a Divorce ?
b. Do you stay in the marriage ?
c. Do you look for satisfaction outside your marriage

3. Most guys say they would prefer their ladies to be virgins. case in point( https://nairaland.macsoftware.info/nigeria/topic-158.0.html )
But most also want them to be very good in bed( No one is good at anything me feel without schooling practice )
you can attest to this point by the Calabar girls and the Maiden school where they are thought to treat a man in bed and all round, I'm sure a lot of Naija guys know or have heard about Calabar girls.

Case in point:

I personally used to think this way, but NOT any more, I'd rather have a wife I'm cool with her personality all round than have a virgin who turns out to be disgusted by me later, the of living an un-interesting rest of my life is not worth it. As long as we are both healthy and disease free.
I mean intimacy is intimacy, even married couples who stray are advised to forgive their wives cause there are more important things once you are married.


4. The Church was vehemently against a lot of things e.g
a. (Using a Condom) I read a while back that the Catholic church stood vehemently against the use of condoms but in todays world, it's supposed to be the norm.
b. Homosexuality (The Anglican church is at loggerheads with itself because some Priests are now receptive to homosexuality while other are still dead against it)
c. Premarital intimacy
d. If you ask Pastors and marriage councellors, There's has been a lot of troubled marriage due to sexual incompatibility, These things don't get said often but they happen and there have been countless marriages broken because of them.
e. And so many more but above are relevant to this topic.


Now given number the above,

---- Should people still have it at the back of their mind that premarital intimacy is entirely bad ?

---- Is it really a bad thing or it's just religious and societal brainwashing ?

---- And yes a lot of values have been placed on intimacy, while rightly so, isn't it depriving the more important things from being enjoyed ?

If you think about it there are pros and cons in every thing, Including premarital intimacy and we could spend the whole day stating them but there are also downsides to not having premarital sexual knowledge of your partner.

Okay NLanders please try in your best way to analyse this issue in your mind before you state your opinion for others to learn from, Including myself, you'll be helping a lot of people too.

Ps: Refrain from personal attacks and or slanderous statements so that every post on this thread would not be a wast of time, Other attempts to discuss this topic have been riddled with un-necessary comments and personal discussions. Please co-oporate so that this does not re-occur.

Guy you are 100% right!!!!

Bullsh**t !!!

Guy you bad oh!!! fourteen year old girl na him you love, you're so full of sh**t, what does she know about love? You're just using her, that is pretty unfair, imagine she was your sister and you see someone as old as you claiming to love her what would you do?

Go for her Dick Tiger!!!

Naija babes are full of S**t

I think I'd like her to striptease and give me a lap dance !!!!

Yeah so true ladies love the bad guyz ,

It's more or less like death sentence for cheaters!!!

Manchester City cuz they've spent alot and deserve to finish fourth!!!

Welcome onboard !!!

Not all dreams come true, some turn into night mare!!!!

Enemies of Realmadrid must be very sad that Real came back from two goals deficit to beat Sevilla 3-2, nobody believed it would considering the fact that these same Sevilla team defeated Barcelona,

UP NEXT
LYON

Nowhere to hide you're coming to the Bernabeu to get your ass whipped!!!

My Choice

1) Traditional/Homely
2) Career Potential
3) Virginity/Low Sexual Experience
4) Beauty
5) Intelligence
6) Sexiness/Fashion/Girliness

snowdrops:

I blame your parents for failing in their responsibility of raising you to respect elders.
They could have spent the time in breeding you on the farm, at least we would have had a bumper harvest by now.

Back to the topic, can the poster copy and paste the full story. The match is about to start sef.

You're such a slowpoke!!!!

eyoniggar:


Correct urself first brah!!!

You're such a fool!!!

khanye:

Do you this?

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That's in the past!!! It won't happen again!!!

Snipizle:

Some silly things girls do that most times cost them their man, , One, not being able to control a situation by herself. They let friends get all in their heads without discarding the Dumb suggestions. TWO, intentionally starving your man of intimacy, you are never ready for it, you don't think its the perfect time, even after about two-three years. THREE, always wanting only the Missionary Position in bed, so boring after a while. FOUR, not telling your guy what he has done wrong anytime he goes astray. Guys are not Mind Readers, FIVE, having a mind-set that once You have allowed him to have intimacy with you, you now have every right to be possessive over him, hell No, SIX, making your weak side so obvious. Most partners quickly take advantage of that, , etc etc,
ain't I Right??

You're right!!! This is a nice thread!!!

Follow ur heart!!!

She should sleep with the dog then!!!

And yes, your first son born out of wedlock is your first, but do you truly blame your current wife for not agreeing with you? Your first child was the result of a liason whilst you or your ex were not ready to commit, for whatever reason, which made you an irresponsible parent! The fact your son's growing up in your mum's home, and you're asking this daft question on an internet forum, also points to the fact you're not being manly enough to make decisions on your own. You're a weak man.
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You're extremely right!!!

adapcee:

There is this lady dat i really love so much and we av been together now for a while.She's someone am willing to take as my wife but the issue is that she's a christian while am a muslim.I av tried my bst to make her understand the consequence of couples aving different religion but its like she's not ready to sacrifice her religion.
Plz wat can i do?I really want this girl and am nt ready to loose her as-well.Thx

Yeah I feel your pain!!!! I've gone through the same thing and came out strong, don't know why it's difficult for a Muslim Girl to get married to a Christian Guy, while it's quite easy for a Christian Lady to get married to a Muslim Guy .

elderbros:

Peeps your say counts.

With the most sufficient resource to make the best meal and a very good environment to Eat it, she's always initiating eating outside. In her place or my place, i don't know why because i've asked her several times and her answer's always the same (that she looses appetite when the meals's made at home).

Wherever we eat is okay with her as far as the meals isn't made at home, even mama-put. "she doesn't care"

She's definatly not my kind of Girl !!!