NewStats: 3,264,181 , 8,182,884 topics. Date: Tuesday, 10 June 2025 at 04:42 AM 1m186j

You even need the sex more than him...at least from your post...so why asking? Even if everybody on nairaland advises you not to, you will still do it so what's the point?

Akathriel:
Ofcourse everybody loves GEJ with the exception of all the Hausa/Fulanis & 96% of the Yorubas + 72% of the Edos.

Deduct that from the entire population and you'd realize Y he was kicked & booted out of Asorock like an helpless guinea-fowl.

This image laundry, at best can be described as a despicable act of face-saving & an exercise in futility.

He should just quietly retire to his village & lick his wounds with a carton of Seamans Aromatic Schnapp.

Ha, e dey pain am nor be small!

Interesting!

Ok.

Wonders! So you thought she was doing all that just to show her gratitude for your sleeping with her and being a good ''shiner'' or what? Some men...smh.

Just be a man for once.

prettigurl16:
My friend just married this guy. The girl is big. The husband is also big with pot belly. I keep thinking the whole thing will be a disaster.

If you have experience dating your opposite in of physical attributes, please share.

Are you new here? Why don't you have a dp?

Enahi:


I really tried to get details about him at the initial stage, I didn't plan to break up with him until my instinct proved me right.

Yeah I think the lady is just Mar ring him for the financial aspect of it.
I am upset about his calls because it simply means he doesn't have regard and respect for his wife to be. I am upset because she is lady like me and doesn't deserve to be cheated on.

I have my reservations but...

So are you ready to stay single till you cross over to the afterlife...since, according to you, men are not worth it?
I just hope that, when you change your perception about men and consider them to be worth something and eventually get married, you'll be a good wife.

Are you angry that he moved on without trying hard enough to make amends with you or because he's calling you to see him for a last romantic lap before his marriage? Well, you don't have to tell his would-be wife anything as she would make her own investigations if she is as concerned as you're about his being a womanizer! Some ladies just want financial protection in marriage and every other thing is secondary to them. By the way, since you were so suspicious of his being a womanizer, why did you allow him slip through your legs?

I don't know why and I didn't want to say, but I had a dream last night about GMB and it wasn't good! In the end APC gave its presidential flag to another northerner (not Atiku) who was eventually defeated by GEJ at the polls!

slimghost:
Less I forget......To put it aptly,it is an insult on our collective intelligence as Nigeria for someone or group of people to tell us that town hall meetings is a perfect alternative to or better than a live presidential debate watched by millions of Nigerians where we can judge candidates side by side against their plans/manifestos.
APC just made an unforgiveable error by their singular action to pull out of all debates and when the result is announced on February 15th,let them please take it in good faith.
Let them continue taking right thinking Nigerians for granted for now,our turn will come!

It's more than insult! Just imagine how many towns he can go to have his town hall meetings...pathetic!
Anyway, they've seen the gullibility of the Nigerian youths who can't see beyond the mask on the supposed and touted "messiah's" face!

A man who has refused to sell his ideas, if he has any, to the general populace and launder his image but has decided to hold meetings in the kitchens of a few towns in a section of the country to preside over a country as big as Nigeria, is not worth the vote of any patriotic Nigerian.

profinmasscom:


10. “They don’t have monopoly of violence. For every stick they carry, we will carry iron, for every slap, we will break someone’s head”.

Does that mean that all the students whose parents are civil servants will stop going to school If APC wins, since there will be no money to pay school fees and salaries?
...2015 is loading!

firstEVA:
what are even saying? do you know the powers of a president under the constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria? i doubt if you do. sorry to say but you appear to have no clue about a lot of things, even Jonathan knows he ought to take charge and contain the situation. Why do you think he keeps saying "we are on top of the situation"? please stop giving meaningless excuses for the president's ineptitude.

Ofcourse I didn't expect you to understand because I knew you wouldn't! Perhaps you might do well to enlighten me on some of the powers of the Nigerian president that have not been excercised to bring the situation under control!

...and for the words in bold, sorry but, you sound more clueless than I'd care to imagine!

In as much as I don't like the happenings in the north, I refuse to be gullible and shallow in my assessments of the present government!

firstEVA:
you have made no sense in reference to the emboldened. we are talking about insurgency, a group of people named boko haram have taken it upon themselves to claim lives on a daily basis, a situation the so called Commander in Chief is unable to handle. what is he president for? are you seriously saying a president can do nothing when a group goes on a killing spree? only a president like the one we have will sit down smiling continuously like a ****, making promises up and down and fulfilling none.

Ofcourse it won't make sense to you, because you seem not to understand the dynamics of the situation and I don't think you would want to, for the reason that you have your interests and loyalty! When you say a group of people, do you know them? For you to say the president is doing nothing about it is emotional deception and playing to the gallery! Would you prefer that he destroys all the communities that have the presence of the insurgents?

Like I asked before, if you decided today that you'd kill yoursef alongside five of your neighbors, who can stop you?

By the way how many mlitary personnel do we have in nigeria and if we were to divide this number among various villages/communities, how many personnel would each village/community have?

Would this number of military personnel in each village/community be able to stop every native from killing their neighbor if they feel so inclined?

firstEVA:
1. Report has it that when he was still in secondary school, he was assistant head boy, the head boy died he became head boy.
2. He was deputy Governor in Bayelsa State, the Governor was killed politically, and he became Governor

When you go against a vindictive boss, what would be your fate if he had the opportunity to determine what becomes of you?

firstEVA:
3. From Vice president, the president died and he became President

What fate awaits one who is terminally ill...or did the former president become terminally ill afer president Jonathan became the vice president?

firstEVA:
4. Since he became president, two of his siblings have died

Are you saying that being the president he should have control over death and shouldn't have lost his relations? ...and since he allowed them to die, he must have used them for something, isn't it?

firstEVA:
5. Since he became president, thousands of Nigerians have been murdered under his watch due to failure to protect their lives as commander in chief of the armed forces.

How many people have you murdered yourself since he became president? If you've not mudered any, why not? Can any president stop you if you decided today that you'd die with five of your neighbors?

firstEVA:
Does this not mean that if he is elected back into office come valentine's day, more blood will be spilled?

More blood will be spilled because of the superstious trash up there? Do you want to tell me that your writing this is because you're under the manipulation of some diabolic being? Otherwise you would have been able to differentiate between a natural act and a premeditated act to your superstitious leaning!

crackhouse:
@OP, Pls what do u mean by hitting?

@OP, Rival is serving a ban!
Anyway, "Hitting" is used in the sense of trying to get someone laid.

rago:


guy, u obviously are a pretty smart and very upright morally. I love that. I respect that.

Thanks for the compliment.

rago:
bro, we r who we r and we cant run away from it. they say, we cant cheat nature. but I agree that self control, toughnes, and d ability 2 say no smtimes at gurls advances are essential.

Yes they're important, especially when you get married!

rago:
but wait, I cant imagine a scenario where a cute lady makes es at me and then , after sm seconds, I wud turn her down...I cant think of ow weak amd self righteous that is. regardless of whether I hav a girlfriend or not, I wud, I think be pretty open to "take her in and "entertain her. But real , en wud never turn a gurl down....I dnt think so

Lol. It's difficult to resist, bro; those people are "wickedly" mesmerizing! But I think a healthy relationship with a totally packaged girl might just reduce the attraction and the desire to give in easily! To some guys, it's just like throwing off prematurely; they can't just stand the sight,
let alone being prompted!

Some guys see such opportunities as "free food" that must not be wasted so they hurriedly grab it with everything in them irrespective of the looks of the girl! They will tell you "Congi na bastard"! lol.

rago:
wimin, who r adept at doing that, who u claim are d stronger side, do so out of insecurity, societal stereotypes on women...if u grab wat I mean.
u dnt understnd women as much as u think u do......I wudnt say I do either. but african women may just be hypocrites..walahi bro..... lol.

Yes they may be skilled at it...and that's what makes them interesting, but they also have the advantage of multitude which an average guy does not have; they have a lot of attention coming their way so they are in a position to keep you at bay while weighing the options available to them.
You're just one in the midst of plenty!

As for being insecure, does a girl need security to sleep with a random guy? What would she be afraid of?

jmoore:
Yeah, sounds ridiculous when a guy keeps bragging about how he had sex with a girl by just giving her recharge card. He says the girl is very cheap, but he is the cheapest one .The girl fuc*ed him for free while he paid her for the sex.

Lol. Guy, you weeked o.

rago:


at OP, I was patient enuf to go thru ur write up several times over because I dint want to mk any uninformed contribution about ds thing. and as it is my nature, I hardly comment on stuff. I prefer to read and learn and smtimes just laugh some silly stuff off. but ds case, mehn..its kinda touchy if not dwnright insulting to d menfolk. m prety sure u b male going by ur argument up there. m sorr to say u hv it all wrong and twisted. no insult bo.

How am I wrong? Is there anywhere in the post that I stated that men and women are wired the same way and have the same genetic makeup? Or did I say they respond to love and attraction the same way? No, bro.

What is suggested in the post is that given what makes each gender to cave in to the intimate desires of the other, the guys give in more easily than the ladies!
A combination of factors make a lady responsive to your advances while it takes a girl very little to get a guy dancing in his birthday suit with her!

rago:

d truth of d matter is that we may be all human, bt there's vast differences btw hw men nd women are genetically made up or wired wen it comes to love and attraction. men r not cheap!
women arent cheap either! we men r polygamous by nature. we r d he-goats and as a consequence, we r intrinsically disposed to wanting to get laid. 99% of men have highly sexed nature.
a lot of us who r very open to ladies advances do so out of lust. yes lust. we r highly hot, awake, hot. so we always wanna do it!

I may want to agree with you but, are you saying that because men are polygamous, highly sexed and the desire for intimacy is intrinsical in them, they can do nothing about it and can’t say “No” to a lady's advances, or even pretend they don't want it?
What happened to self-control?

When something is readily available and the amount can't be controlled, as what is it referred to?

rago:
nw, ifu thnk we r that silly,open and cheap wen it comes to womens love advances, let the gurls flock around him wen he is about to choose a marriage partner. I bet, I wont let my guard dwn......nt then.. then we bcme wiser, modest and clingy. nw, ladies wud sense we take so seriously who we wanna spend d rest of our life with. u wud realize we aint cheap.
as 4 d women being d stronger side, I dn know nd I cnt speak 4 em.

No, I'm not saying men are silly; it's just how weak some of us are in this regard.
Anyway, after the marriage what happens to him? The polygamous nature will disappear?

The truth is guys fall more easily than ladies!

We're all human and are affected by the same circumstances and go through the same ebbs and flows of life.

We all have our foibles and different emotional slants.
But on a general level when you compare the behavior of guys to that of girls' with respect to sex, your mind would not be bereft of thoughts that guys are cheaper!

Take the case of an average girl/lady who's constantly battered by male attention all in an attempt to get her laid, yet she's able to put up some resistance and sometimes resistance strong enough to ward off the invasion of the ever desiring attention of guys!

Now, this is not easy for them from the perception that we all want to be appreciated and made to feel good. Saying “No” to someone who makes you feel wanted, loved and appreciated may require strength of character!

Coming to an average guy, a girl does not have to go to such length as a guy would go to get him in his birthday suit!

In my opinion, guys can't resist girls as much as girls can resist guys and if guys could get half of the sex-laden attention ladies are getting and there was something equivalent to a prostitute and it's also considered acceptable for ladies to approach guys for intimacy, many a man would be designated exactly that…the equivalent of a prostitute!

The reason they would be so termed is that in a perfectly unbiased society, where ladies can equally approach guys, the guys wouldn't have the emotional strength to resist the ladies as much as the ladies can!

Their case wouldn't even be out of a desire to make money or make both ends meet as girls do, but sheer lack of emotional strength to say “No” to an advancing intimate desire projected from a lady's mental closet!

This is my opinion and if you feel differently, let's read yours...thanks.

cutemii:


Btw...I say a loud 'Amen' to the prayer on ur dp

Thanks and stay blessed!

cutemii:
I didn't even read...too long an epistle and my ba3 is low


Can someone summarize

Her guy is having second thoughts about marrying her because all he wanted was someone that could show him care but the op is saying that she doesn't want to show that she cares so as not to look cheap and desperate…even though she does care!

From your writ I can feel the touch of pretence, suppressed feelings, pride, front and attitudinal problems. The way you talk to somebody matters, especially your suitor. If you don't want him tell him so rather than trying to play hard to get.

Courtship is deeper than dating. When you court someone, you have the intention of marrying that person and a deeper knowledge of the person is sought and a whole lot is involved; it does not involve sex before marriage, it's pure. While dating is worldly and it's more of like having fun with no serious commitments and enjoying romantic intimacy!

In a few words, courting is Godly while dating is worldly!

By the way change different(s) to difference(s).

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kokoA: Na wah o, dat your babe body odour na legendary one be dat o..

Guy, don't get it twisted; it was a pleasant smell, perhaps not even noticeable to others, that made the heart want love more!

MisterLongman: Your nose must be as big as this

Guy notin do you, you're endowed! There will be no obstructions to the age of air! I envy you though!

Sometimes I wonder and let myself lose in thoughts about the correlation between intimacy and academic activities! As we are all aware… at least those who have walked the path of formal education, that you can find only a handful of youths in our schools that are not into intimate relationships while they are still there… at least not until perhaps when they’re almost through!

Knowing the emotional involvement required to maintain a relationship and the concentration required to make good grades in school, I’m tempted to ask… rather, asking if a positive or negative correlation exists between these seemingly unexpendable activities one engages in while in school.

I’m also tempted to ask if those who stay off the romance path do better academically.

I can still recall the relics of romance in secondary school from the recesses of my mind!
Prior to my being romantically involved, I was among the best 3 students in my class, but things changed from then on and I started losing concentration and focus!

I wallowed in romance and lost my educational com and the effect was evident in my scores in tests, assignments and all that!
This continued until I was jolted into reality by my result at the end of the academic year when I found myself trailing far behind the class!
I started groping for the path I had been before then and it wasn’t easy!
So how can these two be effectively married without affecting your grades in school?

dhatboy: Smell or scent?

Perception through the nostrils!

Back then when I encountered love for the first time, I could tell the scent of my lady from a distance.
If she had been somewhere before me my consciousness would be awakened to the reality that she had been there! The trail of her scent would perforate through my nostrils even after she had left the place and it would be so unique! It would be so pervasive in my consciousness!

Though my girlfriend was a bit older than I, she loved me to a fault and I felt I loved her too.
Being my first love, I was quite taken with her and ...perhaps that’s the reason it was so!
Is this a sign that one is truly in love or infatuated?

Do you know the smell/scent of your boyfriend/girlfriend?
Can you tell if your boyfriend/girlfriend is around through your sense of smell?

izaray: Yes, i do dat on several occasions! Is not a bad idea, men even demand less.

Unlike we ladies, dat will keep demanding until u leave d arena

Including d once they kno how to eat or not

Am not referring to all ladies, but some do dis!

If u are not lucky to be some1 dat she truly loves, bros ur name

go be sorry

That's good! I love ladies who understand what love and relationship are all about!

@The bolded, why would they do that?