NewStats: 3,264,880 , 8,184,985 topics. Date: Thursday, 12 June 2025 at 05:00 PM 2st1u

SirBigH: Come to think of it, marriage is suppose to be about friendship, love, mutual respect, loyalty, and submissiveness (list is not exhausted). Going by that, helping your wife with the chores shouldn't be much of a problem especially when you do it willingly. It's high time we stop this mentality of seeing our partner as another person. I mean, doing chores should be a nice way of starting the weekend. In 2014, we should open our mind and stop holding on to the archaic mentality that it's a woman's duty to do all chores. For someone like me that adores a neat home (I believe we all do), helping should be very easy for me.



I see it more as being insensitive sitting on the couch with remote control in hand watching my darling Arsenal FC gun down opponents while she labours from kitchen to toilet, to sweeping the compound, the living room and bedroom, and to the market and back to the kitchen again. Haba!!! If you marry someone whom you have deep emotional connection with built on genuine friendship, then house chores will be fun for both of you.

I'm of that stand too actually.. Its just as tho the society has a different view of it

Mondisweets: because i gave my opinion you disagree with?

because your "opinion" is clearly not on the post!

cococandy: I got you clearly the first time.
No it is not by choice. That's my point.
When two people are married,you don't 'chose' to help or not when it pleases you.
You're under obligation to help.

I'd spit fire at any woman who prefers to fold her hands and watch her husband suffer alone to cater for the whole family's every need when she has the means to help but prefer to stand on the sideline because it's not her traditional role.
Or choses to help out sparingly because the man should be doing it.
Or seeks special awards and recognition because she helps hims.

So why will I agree that the man should 'chose' to help in her own area?
I prefer to say he's obliged to help.

I humbly align myself with your position... I think its more about the individuals.. Because from that aspect, everything is shared! Got that candy! thankss

Mondisweets: last time i checked giving criticism still is expressing an opnion please consult your dictionary before commenting next time

before you criticize next time I suggest you read the post, digest it or probably have someone explain it to you, then you may a comment that's in line with the post.

Mondisweets: dont mind some of these goats they scream gender equality when its only to their benefit and then scream african culture and values when it comes to another thing

i feel your comment is drastically discourteous considering the fact that the thread requested your opinion, not criticism.. Please read the post before commenting next time!

cococandy: No.
If they both get back from work like say 7pm,
She's supposed to rush into the kitchen and handle that with some martha stewart prowess,bathe,feed the kids,help them with their homework and tuck them into bed simultaneously,while running the laundry in the back and cleaning the house that y'all probably left in a mess while hurrying to work.

Oh let me not forget. Do the dishes meanwhile checking your favorite dinner so it doesn't burn.
Then serve you delicious poundo yam with banga soup in front of the Telly where you've been stretched out before retiring for the night.

To wake up early next morning to prepare you for work and the kids for school/daycare while preparing herself too.

If you help out with house work,you're being kind and generous but
If she helps out with the bread winning,it's her responsibility

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Exactly the point I seek to justify.. Please read the post again if you don't get my stand on this... I'm clearly saying.. Contrary to what most men believe.. Its not such a wrong idea.. Besides.. A smart wife most likely wouldn't even expect you to do chores with her when she knows you should be at work... I help my partner often coz the nature of my job leaves me more time.. and she returns quite late and tired often.. Its only fair of me to at least lend a hand.. The contention here is this.. I FEEL ITS BY CHOICE, AND NOT OBLIGATORY ON THE MAN'S PART.. The only defense most ladies rely on is his efficiency as a husband!

Mondisweets: no one said its mandatory but ordinary common sense will tell u that if she works just as hard as you to put food on the table, its logical to help her at home because as someone of the "weaker sex" like u like to call them she wont be able to deal with the work load on a daily basis by herself.

If u expect her to help u with the bills, then expect her to require your help with house chores. If u don't expect her to help with financial contributions, only then will it be understandable if u decide not to help her with house chores

hey!! Did you read the post? No offense.. Not hating on your point either.. I don't including finance in the equation... I'm actually on the same side with you.

OmoAlata1: Dam007, do you expect your working wife to contribute financially to your household? If so, then she has same choice as you when house chores are concern. So you expect her help pay the bills with her salary and MUST do all house chores duty. But you, who also have salary and contribute financially only HAVE CHOICE to do house chores??

Ok, did I even read that correctly?

my favorite part of your post!? Your last question! Hell to the "NO" you missed the point...

Mondisweets: so if he can't pay all the bills solely for sometime and he asks her to "help out with the bills" will it come out as rude?

don't get this wrong, my point is its not a bad idea to help your spouse with chores.. But its a choice.. Just because she s her husband should not make it a must for him to handle some chores! Na!

Mondisweets: this is 2014 women are now helping them so half of their role of putting food on the table

lemme get this straight, are you saying now its supposed to be some sort of responsibility for the husband to handle chores simply beacause the wife earns too?

Besides some men construe it as some cause for disrespect.. But then.. It could way of bonding for some couples and for some others, asking the husband to lend a hand may come out rude..

OmoAlata1: Who die and say woman duty is to housework Shouldn't it OUR duty instead of just one person?

When a woman works and make salary, the same idiiot men in here who say "it is her duty to do house chores" will be the one asking where is her own share of financial contribution to the household. And give her the silent treatment if she doesn't contribute. If you expect her to follow gender rules, then you should do the same. When she works, even if she earns more than you, don't use that stinky mouth with yellow teeth of urs to ask her to contribute financially to the house. You bring home the money and she can keep her salary n still make sure your is house clean, your clothes are clean, your kids look clean, food is ready , etc. And at night whether she is tired or not, she can spread her legs eagles for you and you can go up n down for ur boring 5 minutes action without pleasing her sexuaal needs

different strokes for different folks tho.. I just believe, its dependent on the individuals...

What's the duty of a wife folly?

folly65:
What is the duty of a husband?

put food on the table, love respect and protect his wife, Father the kids... Does that cover it??

Godmystrength:
Really??

got a contrary opinion?

alutacontinua: As a real african man that I am, I believe women should do their job in the kitchen and let me do mine in the bedroom

question is, does the "real African lifestyle" still apply in Nigeria these days?.

Mrval20. help discern overdo??.. It would be of help!

Mrval20: In my view, there's nothing wrong with it... Don't just overdo it and don't make her feel you're playing your role. If there's understanding in the marriage, she'd know you're just being a sweetheart.
Don't also start what you can't finish... If you know you wouldn't continue, then don't even start it because when you suddenly stop helping her out, she'd conclude you don't love her anymore or that she's sharing you with someone else.
#My opinion.

correct!!

DickDastardly:

Weak in Pocket

really?? You think Well, to a very large extent, you're wrong.. Besides... Not like you've gotta.. You choose to! Wrong?? What's your opinion??

Funny how men view things these days... I'm of the opinion that some things aren't supposed to be ignored regardless of the influence of our colleagues... Helping one's spouse with some house chores isn't mandatory but I feel men frown at it because it looks #demeaning to them as the man of the house.. Here's my view as regards this.. I help my partner with some of "our house chores" when its clear that she's too tired to or for Some reasons unable to do it all.. To me, I do it not because I should, nor because I'm mandated to but because its our house.. Ps I'd love more opinions happy nairalanders!...

Why do I smell wash in here?? Who's washing who?

Guess what?? I've got a perfect idea for his birthday gift! #AN OWNGOAL# this evening!

abdulahi001: Henhen, so it is closed by allowing media house like punch and channels to report it?

example of yoruba english

Btw, I just feel like being criticized because I'm very happy for a reason, and guess d reason;

















Nepa abi IBEDC or wetin dem dey call dem,just brought light, no be front page things as u thought, u failed with ur thought.


Again, thank you for criticizing/stroke attacking me back, 'cos I need it to make me more happy.

*in a strong yoruba accent* "OPONU"!!!

abdulahi001: Henhen, so it is closed by allowing media house like punch and channels to report it?

example of yoruba english

Btw, I just feel like being criticized because I'm very happy for a reason, and guess d reason;

















Nepa abi IBEDC or wetin dem dey call dem,just brought light, no be front page things as u thought, u failed with ur thought.



Again, thank you for criticizing/stroke attacking me back, 'cos I need it to make me more happy.

Bholutife18: sorry, i meant burst stop

bolu I believe you meant bus stop.... You're one of a kind... Nairaland and even Nigeria at large needs more people like you..

cytellProperty:
Its obvious you don't respect your parents and that's the reason you do that to others too. No wonder your life is like this.

dang! That's a completely unreasonable comment! By their words ye shall know them... BrainsTho!!

Bholutife18: Ouch! I pray it doesm take earth as last bust stop.

bust stop Seriously??

sleekch1c: No complains with airtel bis plan
3k for 6gb

. Babe, you smart jare.... I get 4.2 gig for 1.5k on airtel

koboko69: When Esau sold his birth right....he sought it back carefully with tears. Unfortunately... It was gone and gone forever.

When bb decided to dash their Bbm out....BB chapter officially closed for me. Be it z100.....or Z1million. don't give a hoot.

@op have u layed ur hands on an android device or an iPhone b4? I was only a BBM addict on my BB.... But with my android...I'm addicted to everything!

mean

victorazy:

O Yes! My luvly sister.
Tonto is better that all Nigeiran babes including my mom.

is she that useless or you're the unimaginably stupid son? you should consider deleting that post.

annawhite: yea right!!
I stand happily corrected but I know you r in love with tonto.......

ANA BIKO.. THAT NA BADLUCK... TONTO IS BAD MARKET PERSONIFIED..

annawhite: you are right!!!!!!!!

they all wanna hit.............

pardon!? dang!! if this dickface is the last female there is on the planet, Ama die gay!