NewStats: 3,264,170 , 8,182,843 topics. Date: Tuesday, 10 June 2025 at 12:40 AM 3k1z6d

mgbeketoto: Yes!
Because YOU CANNOT ALTER IT!
I am destined to be HAPPY!

So what are you trying to say?

Chidera Favour: This is very serious, but have you ever bothered to know why your late mum warned that none of you should get married to Imo people? I think that there must be a good reason for that, to the extent of appearing to your younger sister in a dream. Please am not saying that your family are 100% correct for not letting you marry your dream man but where a child is pointing to while crying either his father or mother must be there. In marriage some times, parents expecially the mum plays a great part in approving life partner, if your mum is not in of your chosing partner try your possible best to get her convinced because if you ignore her, the marriage is 70% sure of hiting the rock. Now your mum is no more and she is not in of the marriage, where can you see her to convince her mind? Please my sister I'm very sorry to say this, if you have tried all your possible best to get the approval of your family and didnt succide I beg you let that marriage go, pray that God should give you a partner that will be cherished by everyone. I know that it is not that easy sha! but just try you must surely get over it, in this world, nothing is too good nor too bad depending on the area you looked about it, after all the beautiful ones they said are not yet born, meaning that there is nothing that is the best thing in this world, and nothing now will happen in this world that had never happened before. Once again I pray that God will come right away to intervene in that your case.
Good luck!

So if she opted out of that relationship and later got another guy who happen to be from the same state with the former one, what then would happen? Okay she'll have to discard that one too like used CD.

Dear, what's their reason for not ing it? Are they God? So because it didn't work for someone who's from that state means it won't work for this one too. I'm tired of all this people's sentimental lifestyle. We need to abolish it. One woman would because of one unfortunate incident that once happened to someone who married from a particular tribe, kindred, advices against what could probably be a happy union. As someone earlier said, one needs to put them inn their places sometimes. Was that how they convinced them against their choice during their time? The most annoying part of the whole things is while they're trying to brainwash you, they'll never see or cite examples of similar ones that works, they'll look for the terrible ones to scare and discourage you.

My submission. There's no established principle about marrying from any place. All we see is mythical weapons laced with sentiments from those old folks. The same place they ask you not to marry from another person did and they're enjoying thr lives together. So what are we saying?

I accept sometimes they could be right but in most cases they don't even have the license to what or how the future would be like talk more of being able to determine if you have made a wrong decision or not.

Amelian: @ op, such dilemmas like yours is common everywhere in nija... And the stvpid reasons either parents give is, so pathetic and tribalistic... .... No wonder, we have couples saddled with partners they don't really want as their spouses..and tend to treat each other , with disdain or lack of commitment , hence a New marriage that's meant to be filled with love and trusts, is then built on resentments and resigned thots ...... And due to this same family pressure from one side or either side, the lady or the guy , will eventually succumb to the family pressures.
And if both loving couple go ahead , in d midst of all warnings not to, heed to their warning...... I bet you, either his / her aunt or mother or a female member will go an extra mile, to make sure their union flops from the very beginning ( as if someone send her work)..., till when both loving couples becomes strangers or enemies in their earlier loving home
Thus divorce, separation is just around the corner waiting.
While such families are waiting patiently to hear the good news, that they are divorced and its irreconcilable ....
Pls be very prayerful o.... May God help us from the wicked intentions of our enemies....amen

Gaskiya, you said it all.

Efemena_xy: I don't believe in destiny.

Destiny, is for the lazy, uninspired 'couch potatoes' who will forever take a back-seat in the affairs that affect their lives.

Life is what you make of it, shaped by your conscious actions. I person determined to succeed will do so, whatever circumstances they find themselves in - simply because they choose to work hard coupled with producing innovative ideas to aid their desire for success.

That same analogy applies in the tricky game of marriage. A couple determined to make their union work, and who both come up with innovative ideas on how to 'spice things up' and. 'keep the fire burning' are more likely to succeed at it, than the average laid back couple who believe it is what it is.

Madam EFE, the bolded begs for a question; permit me to digress a lil' bit. How do you explain a situation where someone who wished to travel out of naija and qualified to , applied for visa on several occasions but was denied in all on baseless grounds. Tried every possible means but unsuccessful. This person quit his highly profitable job and spent all he had just to ensure he cleared his way through but was still denied. In a bid to achieve his quest to leave this country by all means he got a visa to Qatar. He only spent 5months, he rushed back to Naija . When asked what the problem was he explained he couldn't get a good job, that he had to manage as a security for one firm there and he couldn't just cope anylonger . The month he got home he got himself a job in an oil company and he's doing fine (again). now. Don't you think destiny has a place in that dude's journey? Can you explain that?

Royal Roy: [colour=#000099]A very interesting topic worthy of debate!!![/color]

In my opinion, I believe destiny exists!!
But God in his infinite Wisdom has given man the freedom to choose!! .
Now, God destined you to be with Miss A.....out of ur own choice & lack of "prayer for guidance", u decided to pick Miss B for the alter!!!
After a while.....which might be 10 yrs or less the wrong choice u made manifests in all facet of the marriage!!!
Now, its possible with prayer that u find ur way back to ur destined partner, who might also have made a wrong choice wherever she is too!!!

Note:::: Not in all cases do u find ur way back to ur destiny!!! Only grace brings you back from ur wrong choices to ur destined path!!!

Check out the story of Mandela, Obasanjo, Fatai rolling Dollars.....these men were destined to be what they were.....irrespective of what they went through!!! In the case of Rolling Dollars who came very late to his stardom.....he was destined to be great & famous....that is where choices come in......It may be delayed....but can't be changed!!!

Wow! As in wow! This is great. So if I may ask you how then would you know the destined partner in first instance? You'll say through prayer right? So does it mean the percieved or revealed Mrs Right would definitely be better than any other choice? But if I don't seek the help of the "divine" before my decision would I marry the miss wrong?

Connoisseur:

You seem not to understand me.
[be]I mean if the marriage isnt meant to be, there wouldnt be any talk of compatibility because the marriage (ceremony) wouldnt hold in the first place.[/b]
Any marriage that held and later hit obstacles was (imo) meant to be in the first place and the trials that comes with it is the same as trials associated with everyday living

I got you perfectly and I dey feel u. You're the one that seem not to understand me. You said if it wasn't meant to be then it won't take place in the first place . Right? And my question still remains if the marriage refuses to last does it mean its meant to be just temporal? We've seen celebrities who have being into and outta several marriages with glamorous wedding ceremony. What should we hinge that on Since it took place in the first place?

yhemmite: hmmm, I av gained a lot from this topic. Thanks to u guys

You just said exactly what's on my mind. I am seriously gaining from it also. This is an eye opener.

Efemena_xy: I don't believe in destiny.

Destiny, is for the lazy, uninspired 'couch potatoes' who will forever take a back-seat in the affairs that affect their lives.

Life is what you make of it, shaped by your conscious actions. I person determined to succeed will do so, whatever circumstances they find themselves in - simply because they choose to work hard coupled with producing innovative ideas to aid their desire for success.

That same analogy applies in the tricky game of marriage. A couple determined to make their union work, and who both come up with innovative ideas on how to 'spice things up' and. 'keep the fire burning' are more likely to succeed at it, than the average laid back couple who believe it is what it is.

Have you seen couples that have tried different therapies,methods to make their marriage work but no matter how hard they try its not just working. No matter how much they pretend, try to fake it their happiness and what we can call marital fulfilment is always only temporal. They have employed all known methods but its going nowhere. How can you explain that?

Connoisseur: Hmmmmm
Predestination, a very touchy topic.
Personally I believe in what will be will be. I believe that even though a union didnt work out well dosent mean the couple aint meant for each other. It only means their own source of temptation is marital and how they handle it goes to fulfil other parts of their destiny.
What I mean is ; if you werent meant to marry some other person, the marriage wont hold in the first place talk more of working.

So what then can you say about "compatibility"? Some people only engaged in a very short or no courtship before marriage thereby leaving them with no choice than to start getting to know more about each other only after the marriage. Needless to say the bout of fights and misunderstanding that they should have engaged in prior to their marriage which would have helped in understanding each other better would start surfacing thereby creating inevitable chaos in their marriage. But you know if I had discovered some nasty and disgusting things (seemingly unbearable)about you during the process of courtship it could have afforded me the opportunity to reconsider my decision. So are you trying to say compatibility doesn't really come to play when it comes to marriage? i.e with commitment issue of compatibility can be worked out?

jidegirl12: Destiny- hmmm

God help those who help themselves ; True to a P....

BUT

as strongly as I'm stuck to my 'Conditional Love' philosophy ( and it's still working for me); I also strongly without any shadow of doubt in my mind believe that if you're not meant to be together , it'll never work NO matter how you try.

Wife wants to make it work, hubby wouldn't budge no matter what,....... you can take the camel to the river but can never force it to drink from the river no matter how 'non- violent crisis intervention' skilled you are .

I believe in Destiny. It comes to a point in our life when when reality struck and we start to grow up i.e pray for the right partner that'll stick to the marriage vows till eternity.

So I can unarguably conclude from your submission here that you believe in whatever would be would be. If you're not "meant" according to your word. Could you please illuminate the quoted.

bro, haba mallam!!! You said everything but didn't explain why esp in Lag you ask them to sell fo you fuel 1K in your gallon but they'll sell 930 naira. Why must they always sell less than ordered amount especially for the customers with kegs?
Nice write up though.

mrs flawless: I had my first baby at the st. georgies hospital in tooting and it was a mixed experience.

3 years after, I had my second child in an hospital in the Jabi area of Abuja, this time I elected to have a C/S after my Doctor advised all through pre-natal consultation. Now, for someone who had seen Hospitals, Caring Doctor and proper equipment, to say I was disappointed at the theatre would be an understatement. I just kept praying. the floor was bare, no screens, no wires and just the doctors. The only "equipment" I saw was an iron bucket(the kind I last saw during my secondary school days)> But God saved me and the CS was successful. the recovery part was the scary part; I was in serious pains and I kept asking for pain killers but none was given. A doctor at some point told my husband to tell me to calm down and bear the pains since I had just been sliced(her exact words). I at some point fell that life was going out of me and it was just God's mercy that saw me through. I went back home with a very beautiful daughter and a heart full of gratitude to God. I am however very scared to entertain the thought of another child. I would have really love to have one more but my last experience kinda freaked me out.
I hate to compare Countries but I have to say that the Medical Team in UK showed that they "owed" me a duty of care

Is this a nigeria thing or what? I have accompanied women in labour to hospitals like two times and I must confess Naija midwives their cruelty knows no bound. Oh Boy! They're not nice at all. They'll see you in so much distress and be shouting at you. If you need anything even in your condition you would have to go and get it for yourself. They'll even attend and react to you scornfully, acting like its all a stage play and you didn't mean it.

The concept is to invalidate and also at the same time Suppport the claim that "you don't cherish something until you loose it"

alutacontinua:

When I was in secondary school, we once had a debate on the topic: "LIFE IS A GAME OF CHANCES, RATHER THAN CHOICES". I can't which side won that day but after the debate, I took it as one of the facts of life that "LIFE IS A GAME OF BOTH CHANCES AND CHOICES". We make our choices and work towards and chances either favour us or work against us. If you believe too much in chances or destiny(as you put it here), you might be a total failure in life cos you're not driven by any force and that is detrimental to success in life. At the same time, not all of your choices would actually go the way you want it to, sometimes, life has a way of just messing our plans up for us. At such times, let go and let nature take its course. I hope you get my drift.

#deep sigh# hmmmmm I got you perfectly.

I actually grew up believing in that philosophy of bone of your bone and now it gat me thinking if marriages that headed for the rock was as a result of "bone of another bone" and this get me scared sometimes of not wanting to default and end up bitting my fingers. I recently found myself in a dilemma where I actually needed to subject that agelong philosophy to proper evaluation . Imagine a scenerio where every arrow points to the fact that this particular person may be meant for you but you're just afraid commiting yourself for some reasons and at the same time trying to avoid the attendant consequences of failing to settle down with that person if the philosophy were true.

@ yellowpawpaw do you subscribe to the school of thought that what would be would be?

Chidera Favour:

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Chidera Favour:
Yes I agree with you, destiny for progress is different from destiny for soul mate. Life partner is something that someone shall choose by him/herself then seek God for blessing, just like carer and other thinds human being can handle within themselves

So when it comes to life partner anyone can fit in, what matter most is God's blessing. Is that what you're saying? So we can rule out "bone of my bone" cos if we want to adhere to that philosophy then there's a bone that is compatible only with your bone and that's where d confusion lies for me.

gidjah: WOT WILL BE WILL EVA BE &WOT WILL NEVA BE WILL NEVA BE
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Hmmmm So you believe "what would be would be" which is somewhat destiny. So can we conclude that since what would be would ever be then you'll end up with that lady or man that is suppose to BE in your life and no other one. Is it not possible for one by his or her action or dogedness alter "what would be that is suppose to be" ? And lastly my brother, I've been pondering so much on that saying "what would be would be" and sometimes I tend to tell myself no need to fight it, no need to struggle what would be would surely be. But how then would you explain MISFORTUNE? How then would you explain scenerio where marriages refuse to last?

I like your comment and would want you to solve the above puzzle too.
Thanks

Hey, there's this thought bothering my mind lately and I thought I should just seek the opinion of great minds residing in this Land full of naira.

Do you believe a particular guy in life is meant for a particular lady? That is by providence you are meant to marry a particular person not just anyone but someone out there that has being predestined to be your partner for life. Hence the saying, BONE OF YOUR BONE. For instance Mr A has being predestined to marry Miss B and no matter their location they'll end up meeting somewhere someday. By implication if you don't marry that particular person then you'll not have a fulfilled home. For the married people in the house do you believe that your husband/wife is the one God has programmed you to be with for life or it could have just been any other person?

House, is this a fact or just a belief?

News just coming in Has confirmed the millitary take-over of the Egyptian goverment. The 48 hours ultimatum lapsed some minutes ago and they made good their promise by ousting President Morsi. The country's constitution has since then been suspended. I hope this would not lead to another blood bath cos the millitary brotherhood has vowed to fight till they retrieve their power back.

Red_Card: Dis Afrocandy is an attention seeker sha. She is just like a worse version of Tonto Dike and an upgraded version of Cossy Orjiakor. I just like her for one thing....for overtaking Cossy Orjiakor on the weird stars list. She deserves a medal for dat cos e no easy to overtake Cossy.

Point on. You beat me to it.
She just wanted an undeserved publicity. She could be a tonto dikeh wannabe. Being controversial in Nigeria now is like a way of earning a good living for yourself. Thanks to social media.

::Andrew:::
Am really surprised at their attitude. Is it not this same obj that produced for whizkid?

Gang of parsimonious, churlish, rapacious, avaricious and penurious celebrities.

"Obj" ? "Wizkid" ? The last time I checked the former was a former president and d latter I'm not sure has ever worked under OJB talk more of baba iyabo.

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fineemina: *Hyper glaze t



***wireless charging
when chinko phones came out it

**wireless charging
when chinko phones came out it was incorporated into a lot of them but the f7 does not have instead it has a battery bank which will suffice but the wireless charging does not actually fill up the phone it just helps the battery last longer because of the hunger within the tommy of the phone ask anyone who own a wireless charging phone that has it every filled up the phone the answer is no. one more thing when u spread ur phone out in the sun it will also be as hot as an electric iron so.

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Bros, are you mixing something up or its just my eyes playing trick on me. Why would you have to spread out your phone in the sun to achieve wireless charging? Dude, Samsung wirelesss charging is an inductive charging and not solar (even if it's solar, must one expose the gadget to sun? ). Other chinco phone might have come with a solar for charging but not the same technology as employed in other high end smartphones.

Truly, many of these feature in those highly priced smartphones are not that useful but it doesn't render them useless. I how USB -on-the-go on my nokia c7 once helped me to get a file from my friend's flash, this happened to be a file I had been scouting for online but with several failed s. You see, some of these features do come in handy sometimes, hardly though.


That a mobile phone displayed another brand name on some applications or websites does not necessarily mean it was assembled by dash for dash. I once owned a sony ericsson and I there was this site I visited and it was recognised as Samsung. Likewise, a tecno t3 that I wanted to use to an application online but had its name recognised as HTC on the website. Same thing happened to one LG phone like that.

Tecno F7 is a very nice smartphone with an awesome spec and a friendly price. However, comparing it with any high end smartphone like galaxy series is sheer mediocricy and suicidal. They both of course serve almost the same primary purpose and meet the daily required need of the s yet we can't still place them head to head for comparison.
You can start clearing your doubt by using both galaxy grand and tecno phantom A1 to take some snapshots in the night. Compare the pictures ( I have done that and can boldly tell you tecno has a poor picture quality esp for snapshots taken in low light) . The difference you'll notice is due to samsung's expertise in mobile phone and gadgets manufacturing. Experience they say is the master.

brownlord: Arrant nonsense, opon imo abi na kpomo imo, i still do not know the brain behind aregbe's useless policy, Osun state is still the most backward state in of education, am presently serving here and i can say this is a wrong step by the state governor, a state where they dont have up to 3 teachers, they rely solely on corpers and OYES ( teaching practice student ) for teaching this children, in my school only 5 staff, 1 principal, 2 vps and 3 teachers, only 2 of the teachers go to school, the school is about the best in the local government and i wonder what would be happening in the rest, this is the only state that an ss3 student can not speak common pidgin english fluently not to talk of writing it down, student still sit on the ground and a few bring chairs from home, there is no desk in class, our government only engage in project that would benefit them, am sure the money he looted from the so called omoluabi uniform is finished and they looking for avenue to loot more, theres been several occasions for days there would be no chalk in school, during test and exams this children sit on the ground to write exams, why cant aregbe employ more qualified staffs/teachers instead of relying on corpers who come and go and Osun state college of education who most times they themselves cant even speak english, in my school a teacher was caught teaching english with yoruba, if i have the time i will post some script of this student test and exam on this forum for this man to be engaging in all this useless project that would not stand the test of time, in their just concluded waec, even the invigilators from waec are the one pleading with corpers to assist the student, is just a shame for people who are not in the state to be celebrating aregbe for this failed policy

An epistle from an unrepentant BIGOT. Don't make me to believe you're from the eastern part of the country cos comments like this is exclusively peculiar to these set of people. Is it only in Osun state that you have few teachers compared to number of students? Or is it only in Osun you have students that can not express themselves properly? That you are serving in a school with such anomalies does it mean every other schools in the whole Ossun state is like that? I also did my youth service in anambra and I can tell you its even worst than what you claimed up there. The day we didn't go to school (I.e CDS day) there would be no school cos corp are the only teachers there. You ask the students question in english they reply in Ibo. I had problem with my principal cos I refused to help the students during WAEC. These things are obtainable everywhere. We should not always come out here and spew rubbish about things we don't know. Even in northern part of the country we have places and cases like that (infact numerous, depending on where you go).

The day NIGERIANS stop seeing things from a tribal point of view would be the day we would be one step ahead. We always allow religion, tribe and every other retrogressive vices to becloud our judgement.

If that okpon imo is what is going to improve the academic standard of the students (regardless of the number of teachers per school) then why don't we applaud it. You should have it at the back of your mind that before such idea would be implemented it would have ed through a thorough evaluation by the practitioners in the education sector to weigh the pros and the cons.

An uncompleted 4-bedroom flat (on a plot of land) is for sale for just 2.5million naira (negotiable).
The building is located at old sokoto road, after winners chapel, Ota Ogun state.(few kilometerz from Lagos state)
Each room with its toilet, it has a lobby and the room sizes are standard.
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Thanks.

Hope this would not teleport them back a century. With this their high level of declesion in the smartphone market share is imminent. Unless they dedicate the next days of their life in coming out with new innovations that isn't open source and can conveniently convince gadgets lovers, I don't think BB LOVERS would still have reasons to stick to them, considering the flexibility in Android OS and others.

Wow! What an unprecedented breakthrough. New day, new discoveries. Patiently waiting for brother Tecno to follow uncle Sammy suit and announce their own (probably an android phone that can operate a digital tv using the 5g and can also serve as dvd player) or na just follow follow dem go dey do for life without any ground breaking achievement.
#just saying

pls who can tell me the meaning of the name OLORIBURUKU and ODE in yoruba. My neighbor normally calls her daughter Oloriburuku and her son Ode. Is d oloriburuku peculiar only to male children and ode to female? What are d circumstances surrounding the birth of someone with this kind of name?