NewStats: 3,263,727 , 8,181,174 topics. Date: Saturday, 07 June 2025 at 03:11 PM 203o6n

chelseaguy: Op, all I see here is self-pity. So, sorry I don't feel your pain. This morning whilst going to work, I came across a BIG LADY and was stunned. She carried herself with grace and I thought of approaching her but for time. And this coming from a dude who prefers slim fit ladies. Confidence is all you need. Just snap out from this self-pity roller coaster you are on right now, before it goes deeper and requires specialist to get cured.

Now to your relationship issue - I really think you being used. I suggest you leave him and start dating older men if that would make your self-esteem improve. Always think of what is best for you as it is a selfish world out there. Good luck!

sir what made you stop from approaching her? i am soo tired of old men now coz most are so married and others i sometimes get scared that i will become a young widow. are my excuses silly?

Idowuogbo:
here we go again... please stay away from folks dat use genetic excuse for obesity.

Eat right and control ur body.

Thank you Madam. I am starting as in now. i will give it a few months and see if i get results

ayodeji752: inbox me ur Facebook id

i do not have face book sir. my email is [email protected]

fulli_16:

so wat do need an advice 4...if dats how u feel bout ursef?

NEXT!!!

i need to feel better about myself please mada. i am tired of feeling like this. please madam i need help . please ma


oops. i am sorry sir for calling you madam

Idowuogbo:
cut down on junk and hit the gym.

WOW is it just that easy? please do not think i am asking a stup question but does not eating junk and going to gym help weightloss for real? coz i hvae hear other people saying ohh no i have tried bla bla sometimes they discarage me and say sometimes its just how pepple are born. Is there such a thing as a person born big naturally and your body would resist all sorts of attempts for weightloss?

ooh i forgot to mention that when someone my age approaches me i am also too judgemental and i will be scared of what people will say when that person is my bf so i just say no MAINLY BECAUSE I WILL BE TOO SCARED

Idowuogbo:
ouccch! sugar! its time to shed a few pnds.

i wana. but how? please give me tips

ayodeji752: are u for real? Are u bigger dan d wife of d president of Ethiopia or even Mauritania?

well i am not big in a bad way, i am big in a way that makes me look like a mother instead of my age. My biggest pain is men who are always coming my way are soooo old and mostly married ( probarbly they think i am married too looking for a side thing but hell i am not and am looking for the main thing). People who are around the right age for me , run when they see me

tellwisdom: I need to see you before i help you out

i honestly do not have photos. You hey the most hurting thing is that the men who wer attracted to me before where old and married so i was always their side thing and i hated that but i was so desparate for love. All people who are around my age go for the different kinda girls. i am so tired of feeling left out and i am tired of being someone's side thing or dirty little secrete. I want a man who will be proud of me and show me off. I just want him to feel proud when seen with me in public.

Idowuogbo: u? na so life bi? i see u o!

@op

wen u say big, how big? can i see a pic?

unfortunatley i always avoid photos. even if i am with a group of people and they are taking photos i always hide and run because i am scared of pictures. Well i am a size 48 / 24 and if i go shopping i always get the embarassing ''ehh no mam we do not have your size on this'' or ''ehh this will not fit you mam'' so i am always shopping where my mom shops ( things for people her age''. I can't even fit in to cheap clothes as they are generally for thin people. If ever i dress up and with my age mates people start thinking i am their Aunty or something and i always feel embarrased.

Screwface: I feel your pain but there's almost nothing anyone can do for you right now. Whatever has to be done, has to be done by you.
For a start, stop looking down on yourself. You are big, so what? Am not exactly sure being big is a criminal offence. And if it isn't, start enjoying being big!

Take a stand in the relationship. Tell him it's ALL or nothing. If he ain't serious, cut the chase and move on. You sounded like someone who's being 'managed', or like you are an option in a sea of many.
My dear, stop taking shitts and stop seeing yourself as being disadvantaged abeg.

do big girls find love? is there someone out there who is big and has gotten real love or is this how we big girls are always treated?

I have always been a big girl. Bigger than my age that is. I have a very beautiful body and personality but a bit too big for my age. I have always been like this. Now i am 26 but you would swear i am 29 or more. Now i have always attracted older men or bad guys and now i finally thought i had met the one. He is turning 25 in August and i am ( for once in my life) the older one in a relationship. I sometimes hate him coz i get the feeling that because i am fat he wants to treat me like a sugar mommy. but i am only 1 year older than him.I am tired of him hurting me. I get the feeling that he has a younger skinnier lover and me i am just the for sex and do him favours. The dude has never invited me to his home or to meet his people but he knows my home and people like hell. When i dump him he declares his undying love for me but when i decide to stay in the relationship he never has time for me and makes me feel as if he is doing me a favor by spending time with me. Will i ever feel good about myself, will i ever be happy like other people, or am i going to be his dirty secret forever? i am scared of ending things compeletly coz i am a coward and i cant stand to one day see him with a better girl coz i am just a fat worthless ugly girl who looks older than she is.Do you feel my pain?