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beetruth: 6:44pm On Jan 20, 2015
chemali:
Why didn't you paste what he posted some moments after the picture

Why use it at all in the first place

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beetruth: 6:39pm On Jan 20, 2015
Wow. So surprised politics could make even a pastor lie. It is well with this country. May Gods preferred win.

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beetruth: 4:31pm On Jan 20, 2015
Silence from APC e lords has finally proved this.
Thank you all
beetruth: 7:40am On Jan 20, 2015
GGfadar:



...............

wetin d clueless man do
no b obasanjo start d railway project
y una mumu like this ?
now u r praising jonaa for projects someone else started.

JACKSHIT
So it took obasanjo 2 to start it abi and jona did the job under a term.
Pls be fair and objective in your critics.

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beetruth: 7:25am On Jan 20, 2015
Before Voting Buhari: Twenty Things History Teaches US By Kennedy Emetulu
History is harsh, because it hides nothing from honest and discerning people. For those who are dancing at the prospect of voting in Muhammadu Buhari, please consider the following historical facts.
BY KENNEDY EMETULUJAN 15, 2015
History is harsh, because it hides nothing from honest and discerning people. For those who are dancing at the prospect of voting in Muhammadu Buhari, please consider the following historical facts. Interpret them however you choose, but think about them deeply:

Kennedy Emetulu
(1) Think of the kind of nation the colonial masters bequeathed to us before leaving. They instituted different political, social and legal system in the North and South, but still ran the country as one and left us without any attempt at righting the wrongs they’ve instituted.

(2) Think of the pogroms in the North against the Igbo and Southerners. What were the reasons for this? There was no reason more than that the Igbo and Southerners were seen as taking over the economy and geographical space of the Northerner in a supposed one, free Nigeria.

(3) Think of the First Republic and the issues that led to its demise. These issues ranged from the obvious injustices perpetrated at the centre by a majoritarian oligarchy, which then led to electoral violence in the West and national distrust in the Niger-Delta.

(4) Think of beginning of military intervention in politics and the cost to the nation:

(a) The First Coup of January 1966 and the real motivation of the chaps behind it.

(b) The coming of Major-General Johnson Aguiyi-Ironsi and the counter-coup that saw his death and the mass killing of Igbo officers within the army, including the pogrom that followed up North.

(c) The Civil War and the cost in human and material resources to the nation. Was it necessary? Why the waste? What have we learnt? Think of the Asaba and Owerri massacres (Buhari was part of the latter)? Were they necessary? What have we learnt from that war?

(5) Think of the whole nine years of General Yakubu Gowon, the seven months of General Murtala Muhammed, the four years of Shehu Shagari. The almost two years of Buhari, the eight years of General Ibrahim Babangida, the five years of General Sani Abacha, the one year of Abdulsalami Abubakar and the two years of Umaru Yar’Adua. For almost 40 years of the 54 that we have had flag independence, the North has ruled the nation, but what did their leadership do for Nigeria? Why is the Northern elite now hell-bent on taking back power at the top? How long have they been out of it that they now want it back? What did they do with it for their people when they had it?

(6) Think about June 12 and the murder of MKO Abiola. Imagine the opportunity our country had at that juncture in our history and who truncated it. Who are the beneficiaries of the truncation of June 12, but Buhari and the industrial-military complex that backs him now as of the APC?

(7) For the Yoruba, think about the power you have now and how to use it responsibly. When Obafemi Awolowo had it, he used it responsibly and this nation is grateful for it. For those who are hailing Bola Tinubu as some kind of political genius, do they think Tinubu is safe under a Buhari presidency as he has been under Jonathan? Do they not see how easy it would be for Buhari to pluck out Tinubu in a power tussle over control of the APC under the guise of fighting corruption? Do they think there is anything a Vice President Yemi Osinbajo can do in the circumstances? What would be the fate of the Yoruba at that point?

(cool  Think about the National Question and what this false change would mean for the Southern minorities and the nation. Since the Willink Commission of 1958, their troubles have been in the front burner of national discussion and we have shouted ourselves hoarse for a Sovereign National Conference (SNC). Whether we want to believe it or not, Jonathan’s presidency sort of doused the raging fire, so what would his ouster do? Think about the Orkar Coup of 1992 and what motivated those young men now lost to the firing squad.

(9) For the Yoruba, think about those who today mostly populate the highest and middle level echelon of the oil industry. They are not Niger-Deltans; they are young Yoruba professionals and Tinubu who worked with Mobil knows this. Are you prepared to sacrifice them and their career to install a Buhari who, from his actions and utterances, look bent on dipping the Koran in the sea in the form of establishing Sharia all over Nigeria? Does anyone think the South-South will sit down and share the oil wealth with a nation of the sort Buhari has in mind? Does anyone really think Buhari has the temperament to hold a complex Nigeria together?

(10) To the Northerners, think about what we are already seeing about Buhari on the campaign trail. Does he look like a healthy person? His gaunt, austere look is not just about his stature. The man is old and ill and this campaign will take a lot from him. If, God forbid, he does not survive this campaign or his first term where would that put this country? Does anyone think that the power-mongers of the North will simply stand by and let the Vice President take over constitutionally? Are we prepared to go through the Yar’Adiua experience again, especially this time when they are likely to be more desperate? What would it mean for those in the North who think it’s their turn to take over, rather than wait till 2019 when they are likely to have a more vibrant candidate with real national appeal contesting for the presidency and with a chance to win and govern in peace?

(11) Think of Buhari as the head of state and how he ran the nation. The day he was overthrown, I was at the parade ground at the Orientation Camp in Toro, Bauchi where I was serving my NYSC. I that the chap who was our Commandant was a young Captain said to be a cousin to Brigadier Joshua Dongoyaro who announced the overthrow. His second-in-command was then Lieutenant Ugo Buzugbe who is today a Major General. Once word reached us of the overthrow, the whole camp went agog with jubilation! On the day, I was delegated by my friends to go to Jos to buy some things for a party we were planning. I got there and the whole city was jubilating! We heard of spontaneous jubilation all over the country. Today, some brilliant, but devious spin-doctors are painting Buhari as a great leader who is now making us feel nostalgia for his time! Only fools who would want to be treated like animals and butchered without reason would look at Buhari and say he is the change we need. Yes, we might need change, but not Buhari! We are not a cursed people! We should never go back to our national vomit!

(12) Think about his manifesto and what he offers. Is there anything there that he can do better than Jonathan? He talks about fighting corruption, but Buhari is a corrupt man being shielded by spin-doctors! The facts of his corruption are there! How can anyone believe the lies about his poverty? What poor man contests every presidential election since 2003 in such a grandiose manner? Can’t we see the corrupt people he consorts with and those interested in sending him to Aso Rock? Does that add up?

(13) Think about this fellow who has been a recurrent name in Nigerian politics since his overthrow by his military colleagues, but who cannot tell us one good cause he has put his name or his money in. Where are the charities he s? What business is he involved in? What has he been doing with almost N30 million he receives monthly as gratuity? How has he improved himself since leaving office? Why can he not just tender his First School Leaving Certificate, rather than lying and getting others to lie for him? How many scholarships has he awarded, even as we know that his daughter lives the high life in a UK university where she pays more than £16,000 as school fees? How many university chairs has he endowed? How many professional bodies does he ? How many international missions has he helped with? All we have seen him do since is go to BBC Hausa, say some inciting and divisive things and when called out, he proclaims innocence and accuses journalists of misinterpreting him.

(14) Think about his for Boko Haram and the group nominating him as their representative in negotiation with the Federal Government. Why did he cowardly refuse to be part of the negotiation when he’s spent the whole time attacking the Nigerian Army and the Federal Government over Boko Haram? Does anyone think the present Nigerian Army would accept this type of untrustworthy and divisive figure as Commander-in-Chief? After all, following the annulment of the June 12 election, one of the reasons Babangida said they couldn’t hand over to MKO Abiola was because he wouldn’t have been accepted as Commander-in-Chief. Buhari was one of the beneficiaries of that annulment. I can’t see him being a good Commander-in-Chief. As bad as it sounds, he will do the same mistakes he did the first time and worse and Nigerians would be reduced to jubilating again when a coup topples him. Egypt after the electoral victory of the Muslim Brotherhood comes to mind. And that would be the least terrible of all choices we can get.

(15) Think of Buhari who has no idea of modern governance. Only dishonest people will believe otherwise. Listen to him and see how vacuous he is. No matter how they try to hide his illiteracy, it’s glaring. He has now ed Twitter, because of election, but what does he really know about modern communication? His best phrase is “I will fight….” No, governance is not about fighting; it’s about governing. I don’t want to hear people tell me he would surround himself with the best brains, because anyone without a brain ruling Nigeria will not know the best brains and even when they are there, a man with the ignorant stubbornness of Buhari will not listen to them or know how to use them.

(16) Think of the world we live in and the kind of leadership driving developments in other lands. Think of us in 2015 celebrating a Buhari as our President! The country of Tafawa Balewa, Nnamdi Azikiwe and Obafemi Awolowo celebrating a Buhari in 2015? Some may say Jonathan is not better, but that would be unfair. Jonathan is far better, even if he is not the best we can offer as a nation. Forget the propaganda that he has not done anything, he has. His istration has achieved a lot and those who are honest know this. Indeed, his istration has achieved more for the North than any Northern leader in our history. His problem is that he does not have good marketers. Whatever minuses we think Jonathan has, Buhari will triple them. 

(17) Think of the Boko Haram menace and understand that it is not a question of Jonathan failing on national security, but a huge sabotage against our nation by elements looking to benefit from his ouster. One of the worst things done to our nation by that buffoon, Olusegun Obasanjo was the emasculation of our armed forces. He did it when he came into power in 1999 under the pretext that he was professionalizing the army and stopping them from planning coups. His Ministers of Defence, Theophilus Danjuma and Rabiu Kwankwaso oversaw the destruction of the army, even as massive money was voted in the defence budget. Of course, we had no threat. By the time that threat came in the form of Boko Haram, Yar’Adua dealt with it with overwhelming force. But that was the problem. Yar’Adua ordered the killing of Boko Haram activists extra-judicially, but that only earned them international recognition from Global Jihad. With external money and training, they were transformed and under Jonathan, they became the Nigerian franchise of Global Jihad. Then in collaboration with Northern power-mongers they began a process of blackmailing Jonathan. He asked for negotiation, they would not budge; he promised them amnesty, they would not budge. They simply continue to kill defenseless citizens at will, because they know that will undermine Jonathan and the state. They this with propaganda, inflating number of casualties and working with their political partners to undermine the state and state response at all levels.  Meanwhile, when the nation had the OPC problem in the West, Yoruba leaders went out there to sort it out. When we had problems with Bakassi Boys in the East, Igbo leaders rose to the challenge and when we had the militancy in the Niger-Delta, South-South leaders, including Goodluck Jonathan went into the creeks to talk the boys into disarming. Now, what have the Northern leaders done about Boko Haram since it started its rampage? Some wring their hands helplessly, while others like Buhari make political capital out of it! Of course, all Boko Haram wants now is a Northern president who would establish Sharia all over Nigeria and Buhari will give them that. But what that means is that they used the power of their guns to impose on us a national leadership that would take us back to the Middle Ages. I have no scruples with Buhari and his kith and kin that want criminal Sharia, but they cannot impose it on the rest of the nation above our Constitution. I will not vote for my own death! I will not vote for my people’s death!  I will not vote to take Nigeria through the darkness that I know a Buhari presidency represents!

(18) Think about the fact that we lost more people to communal, ethnic and sectarian violence under Obasanjo, including deaths by political assassinations, yet everyone is conveniently forgetting this fact and proclaiming Jonathan a weakling. Would we prefer that Jonathan and the military give communities the Odi and Zaki Biam treatment in the name of fighting Boko Haram?

(19) Think about the National Youth Service Corps and the almost 1000 people that lost their lives up North after the last presidential election simply because Buhari did not win. Did Buhari’s reaction at the time show him as a statesman? Did it show him as someone who cares for the life of Southerners? Is that not the same man who has promised that dogs and baboons would be soaked in blood if the election is rigged this time, which in fact is a code word for massive violence if he loses? 

(20) Think Nigerians! Those of you North and South who love this country and who know what we have sacrificed to get here should think of the future. It’s okay to think it’s great removing an incumbent, but think what will replace that incumbent. It’s okay to preach change, but please interrogate that change. Is it really the change we need or a pretence to change that would impose a worse future on us? If the potential for trouble in that new future is worse than the present, stick to what you know. The devil you know is always better than the angel that you don’t know! Those who say if Buhari fails, we will vote him out in four years should that we might not have that luxury, because there has to be a living, viable nation before we can talk elections. A word is enough for the patriot!
 

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beetruth: 5:30am On Jan 17, 2015
Charles911:
Lol na em kill una piple ode oshi people all dis yoruba go dieeee finish weak assholes lol up GEJ he will rule again and again and yorube never start to die foolish tribe taaah Godforbid dat tribe
May God deliver. May it be unto you as you have wished your neighbour. All because of some shameless desperate thieves who are dtermined by fire and force to rule with their own kids far away you place so much curse on yourself. Get a live and stop hating or judge a whole race based on an individuals comment. Smhh
beetruth: 7:38pm On Jan 15, 2015
Ajibel:


Ok, that happens yet Lagos is FAAR better than all other states. There is daily improvement in Lagos still, I prefer that to stealing and then doing nothing for the masses.
Do you mean you prefer stealing with something to show for and charge the masses for it to stealing and doing nothing. In order words a govt gives you N5 claims its N50 and said its a PP project and charge you 5k per use for ever to another govt who does little or nothing and leaves you alone. Which do you actually prefer? Pls expantiate.
beetruth: 7:19pm On Jan 15, 2015
RoyalPriesthuud:
Even if u'r going to oppose his views, at least do it with *****. Is it the fault of only APC guys that u called thiefs that we don't ave all those u highlighted above? And also tell me if the guy u called Tinubu has been d number 1 person b4. Even without oil, even without taking 13% allocation, Ogun and Osun state present istrations have delivered so well.
Why don't u wise up and remove ur ETHNIC BIGOTRY GLASS? Ur kids might curse u later on when they still can't get those tins u mentioned. WAKE UP!!!

Are you talking based on hearsay or what you see. Osun state is not its best state at the moment. Workers salary pending for months now. Dada estate - orisumbare road in its worst form. The only thing u can see in the capital is the fences along okefia- ola iya road. And ede- gbongan road in progress. Lest I forget he feed the students but make their teachers hungry by not paying their salary for months. Is DT the best of governance? May God judge speedily all politicians and their followers
beetruth: 7:13pm On Jan 15, 2015
Bayswater:


I asked a simple question, what has Fashola done in Lagos?
Made a road on lekki rajah which the masses still pay for at every ing. Now I must plan to hold 240 b4 I can go out to hustle. God bless Nigeria

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beetruth: 9:12am On Jan 15, 2015
No wonder

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beetruth: 8:56am On Jan 15, 2015
Nairalanders pls reply comments to the writer strictly and not his tribe or race as no one can speak for others but for him/herself. Enough of this tribal and religious insults.

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beetruth: 8:51am On Jan 15, 2015
Alcatraz001:


God bless you, you seem to be a more level headed person.My reason for stating what I did above is because for the past 4 years,the ibos consistently been seen to this istration's corrupt and inept policies without recourse to the morality or otherwise of such acts by Jonathan.

It is even rumoured in certain quarters that the ibos feel and hope that the mismanagement and misrule of jonathan might likely lead to the dismemberment of Nigeria so that the can exit the country and form their Biafra republic.

Their is an alleged general consensus in the north that the Boko Haram Crisis is a plan by the ibos and South South to pay back the North for the genocide of the Civil war.The ibos have not helped themselves too by making inciting statements which border on outright hate of the yorubas and the north for the ills of the Civil War.

In conclusion,whatever electoral malpractice(s) which the ruling PDP concocts or exerts will be resisted and largely revenged on the ibos especially in the north due to their unflinching of this istration in the face of glaring inept Leadership exhibited by Mr Jonathan which is so glaring even to a blind man.The general mood in the Country is that of Change and any attempt to test the will of the Nigerian masses will be met with stiff resistance.This is not a threat but a reality.

We all know that its only the ibos that are still vigorously ing jonathan because they know they have insulted all other Nigerians (Especially Yorubas who have been hospitable over the years) because of this one man...Jonathan.The ijaws and south southerners don't even him as much as the ibos do.

These are the reasons why I stated what I did earlier.I hope this will help clarify my earlier point.

Selah.
Pls speak for yourself and not a whole tribe. U can't assume for Yorubas. Cos you feel APC is better than PDP does not make it better. And stop assuming all yorubas share your view. Enough of this tribal sentiments

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beetruth: 8:19am On Jan 13, 2015
Trying to make up my mind about forthcomingelelection but need APC believers to help clear a few questions
1. Buhari will jail corrupt people. Are there no corrupt politician in his camp? Will he jail them after they spend so much?
2. Buhari will end bokoharam if elected. Does he have to wait till he is elected to stop this massive waste of lives? If he eventually does not get there will this evil persist?
No insults, abuse or name calling. Thank you

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beetruth: 3:46pm On Jan 10, 2015
Timbuktou:
Good thing you're cutting out the bad food. However, since you can't afford a gym, you should get a skipping rope and start running/jogging, these basic workouts will pay enormous dividends if you apply religiously.

For money, search online for crafts that require little to nothing to start, google is your friend. There must be things you can produce from trash, really google it up.

Good luck, again.

Thank you
beetruth: 2:48pm On Jan 10, 2015
Timbuktou:
While I empathise with your situation, it really isn't your husband's fault that you weigh too much or don't have a job, it's not like he's stuffing you up with calories and stopping people from employing you. You need to take responsibility for your life and make decisions to develop yourself.

Watch what you eat and start a workout program now, otherwise the journey down will continue.

As for his abusive words, while they are wrong, they're probably an offshoot of the negative vibes he gets from you, even if they aren't, you need to be positive and demand positivity from him. He's probably under stress himself.

For money, you'll need to learn a skill or trade, if you lost your job years ago and you haven't upgraded, it's unlikely you'll get a good one anytime soon.

Sorry for your situation, though. I know it's tough.
Thanks for your advise. Really appreciate. I don't eat a lot so can't say its food DT caused my weight issues. Its majorly cos of fmp which adds weight when not too active. This I have stopped and presently walking around my environments to exercise. I can't afford a gym or a weight loss plan but I am working out the best way I can. As for my job, I have completed a second degree and would also not have mind to learn a trade but I don't have a sponsor at d moment so will just have to wait till i get a job.
As for the vibes and I don't send out negatives. Thank you
beetruth: 2:40pm On Jan 10, 2015
bennyrazz:
your husband is torturing you emotionally. The point is, are you useless? if you are convinced you are not, next time when he calls you such, tell him if you were useless you won't have bore him his kids. Just tolerate him and stop doing things that irritate him. Some people are usually not themselves when they have cash to throw around

Thanks for your response. I really appreciate. I cant say I irritate him cause I always try my best to avoid such situations. I try every time to make him happy and save cost to the nearest minimum just to make sure he is not strained financially.
beetruth: 10:38am On Jan 10, 2015
While watching my weight is killing me on TLC my spouse said "wish you weigh 600lbs +, will seize your phone and leave you alone". Used to be a size 10 but presently about size 20 due to depression I assume. Lost my job some years ago and have been trying to get another without any from my spouse which i am yet to achieve. I have been enduring all this treatment because of our children and hoping with prayers and guidance for directions.At any slight irritation calls me useless and I feel this wrath most when there is extra cash flow in my spouses pocket.
Pls advise
beetruth: 9:02am On Dec 26, 2014
What is it with APC n followers? Can't they just talk without insults, abuses and curses? Are they not learned enough to drive home points without lies? Not saying others don't but theirs is just too .........

Note: I follow neither PDP or APC as I C them as a bunch of recycled thieves under different names.

#myopinion

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beetruth: 10:24am On Nov 29, 2014
How long will Nigerian youths continue to celebrate deciet and lies while many die in silence This man has failed to pay workers and retirees salary for the past 3 months but has money to spend for inauguration. I know you won't disappoint and glad to hear you have started your plans already. May God deliver this country for stomach infrastructure people who only think about today
beetruth: 10:25am On Nov 18, 2014
It saddens my heart to see children of this great nation in Agungi Lekki Area of Lagos school in this kind of environment yet we have a government o. A government whose claim is rated as one of the best in the country. Wonder how many of such exist? Can't imagine an outbreak of Ebola in this condition?

beetruth: 4:53pm On Oct 16, 2014
I have migrated to pulse yet it seems not to work on my own sim o. Pls help out.

beetruth: 8:41am On Sep 29, 2014
I know a lady who is married to one of such selfish thing. He started with locking his phone, keeping his finances, working xtra late n every weekend and then his ring. With no explanation. Any time d wife complains or tries to ask he makes it a fight. Once beat the poor thing over his phone chats wit gals. Now the wife goes about without her ring too. Do we blame her or call her names

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beetruth: 3:03pm On Aug 14, 2014
thank you and God bless you richly
MadCow1:


[b]Hmmm!


This one is strong... undecided


Okay.. Lemme give this my best shot. It's not easy I am sure as I can't possibly relate to your situation, however I will still try.

You need to snap out of your depression and refocus your life on you and your kids.
Inner strength is what you need to dig deep within yourself to find. Your kids need you very much. Putting on all that weight can't possibly be healthy and except your ultimate plan is to get sick and die, leaving behind your kids for this Man you described to raise, then you need to refocus and do so fast.

I am a strong advocate of 'tears therapy'. Crying always somehow relives a lot of the burdens we carry, particularly the emotional aspect of that burden. Get the tears out of the way and have a lighter heart and a clearer mind. Then restrategise and refocus all your energy on you. Start going to the gym, get a workout routine sorted and stick to it religiously. Get back into shape and treat this like a project. Regain your self confidence and start to love yourself in your skin again. If you are a stay at home mum with little kids, find something outdoors that you can do with your kids or even better, in a group with other women. As you start socializing and meeting new peoples, you would start to feel alive again. If your kids are grown and at school, try getting a job or even starting up a business. Basically, keep your mind busy on something highly challenging, fun and productive. An idle mind is more susceptible to depression than an active one.

Your kids.. Center your life around them and live for them. Engross yourself in raising them and wrap yourself up with them. Use them to find comfort and joy within yourself and your home.

Treat your husband nicely and act like everything is well. If you ever catch him in a lie, with calm and poise, tell him the contradiction in what he said without calling him a lair outrightly.

Example: Bolaji, I thought yesterday you said the stain on your tros were from the pap that spilled on you during lunch at work, how come today you are saying it's from engine oil?

Ask for the cheating, there isn't that much you can do about that. However, you can work your way back into being a sexyass Vixen and have people ire your look and pray that he realizes just how much he has and why he needs no other woman. If he doesn't, no problem. Being over weight wouldn't help bring your husband back into your arms.

Now despite all I have written, if you know within yourself after some deep thought that you can't deal with the situation you currently find yourself in and that your depression is getting worse, please opt out lest you die there. Get a lawyer and file for divorce and get the courts to award you maintenance (alimony) according to the marriage act of Nigeria.

I never advice seeing a pastor as they tend to over spiritualize a non spiritual problem.

You can talk to either of your parents that is understanding and reasonable enough otherwise, don't do it at all. I have a friend whose father keeps sending her back to her abusive husband because he believes a woman should never leave her matrimonial home no matter what.

If you are spiritual like most Nigerians, you can pray.. I can encourage this as I think prayer can also be a form a of therapy.


In summary, refocus on other important aspects of your life that are within your control like; your weight, your kids and your general well being. Being depressed does nothing to help your case and may lead you to a very low point and in the end, your kids would suffer.

Goodluck.. [/b]
beetruth: 1:08pm On Aug 09, 2014
NewNigeriaMind:


Define generally please. The point being made is, even if the policy has not fully yielded results, sane and sensible minda can see the potentials.

And waec data changes every year. what makes you think the student performance would improve next year and what are the chances the top states this year will retain the position next year.
are you now saying upon the billions spent on opon imo the potential seen is this poor performance? open your eyes to see that we do not need to spend so much to achieve success in d educational sector of the state. Good day

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beetruth: 11:44am On Aug 09, 2014
NewNigeriaMind:


The same Osun just produced the winner of spelling bee competition and from a local school.too.


Do you realise the reason must candidate dont do well in JAMB these days is because of the fact most are not use to the use of computers.

The reform is still at its early stages. we are certain the desired results will materialise.

Let us in Osun worry about our problems.

when waec has not been ed generally you and ut party are busy preparing them for jamb abi? sorry i wont leave osun state problems in the hand of fanatics without follow through plans. CHANGE IS NOW
beetruth: 11:28am On Aug 09, 2014
dagr8:
oops she forgot to add Osun ranked 34th out of 36 in Waec performance cheesy....
what a sharp fall in SSCE performance
upon all their claim of transformation and opon imo. lol

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beetruth: 10:22am On Aug 09, 2014
MymothersKeeper: It is clear that Rauf wants a future and wants to lead Osun forward, many Osun kids were illiterate in Yoruba speaking primary school before. Rauf destroyed all those nonsense schools and merged them into about 10 giant schools with adequate teachers who rehabilitated many of them. Within 4 years he made a huge difference. There is not much difference between those new schools and privates schools.
Omisore clearly wants to loot and spoil Osun his main purpose is to steal , if anyone is too blind to see that , mo sorry fun iya anybody t'oba vote omisore angry
And how many of your kids are speaking good English now. so u believe that merged giants schools will give the kids more attention compared to small 'nonsense' schools? also how many adequate teachers where provided for this your aregbe refurbished schools o? obviously you are talking just from what you read and not actually see or have a one or one chat with the kids or related to one of their teachers else you would know that ur utterances are just .................. i am sorry for u

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beetruth: 11:30pm On Aug 01, 2014
I am very depressed.I am married to a chronic liar and a cheat. I am presently in my worst state. was size12 even after 2kids and now size18. I see no meaning to this anymore
beetruth: 4:52pm On Jul 25, 2014
cant believe pple can be so blindly with these politicians. wonder y anyone wud want to vote aregbe who has blinded pple wit litle infrastructures without paying regularly pensioners their hard earned token or provided meaningful employments for youths for proper cash flow in town. change pple clamour for but at wot cost. now lagosian living on the island can see clearly wot the change at tax payers money as gotten them. yoy cant go out for daily biz without contributing at least N240 to N500 to tinubu n co yet u r taxed o. wonder how much dt will be at d end of the yr for each car dt es. Yoruba eronu. it is well

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