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Mteeeew atẹ 29 you're not thinking of marrying any time soon... your village people must be behind this

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be ing the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

Everything seemed ok till ur last paragraph. If u lack self control and emotional control don’t cohabit.

It will end in tears.

Geeksamir:
Hmmm
Just kukuma tell us that u want free kpekus

Is it free??! Is anything truly free even in Freetown??!...

You're a Shameless man

If you don't have anything in mind, you shouldn't have brought this discussion out . allow her to have experience of being a corper .

Saltybear:
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Where on the island did you find a self contained?

Please I hope you aren't one of those people who refer to Ajah axis as the island?

Was it in onitu estate you got the room?

What was the rate ? I am looking to help someone secure one

Now to the less important thing , well if at 29 you don't know what's good for you or your future then don't waste space by typing things like this

I have to take out time to reply you, you don't have to be unfortunate with you reply, if ajah axis is not island, what then is it? Why try to stereotype everything? What is the meaning of island again? A place where rich people live?

Now to the less important thing, being 29 doesn't mean I can't seek advice on something confusing, something I haven't done before and some other people have the experience.

You are 29 and you are not planning to settle down soon. Its ok

Hightser:



I have to take out time to reply you, you don't have to be unfortunate with you reply, if ajah axis is not island, what then is it? Why try to stereotype everything? What is the meaning of island again? A place where rich people live?

Now to the less important thing, being 29 doesn't mean I can't seek advice on something confusing, something I haven't done before and some other people have the experience.

Aaah, i see.

FYI ajah isn't the island it's just ajah

Have a great day

Cheers

Omo. I need a babe to stay for a week, ill pay any amount mehn

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be ing the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

You don't start what you won't finish

Leave her to serve where she will be posted to

You can't keep your girlfriend in your house and tell her to feed herself yet when you are hard on you sleep with her in the same bed and still make love to her

Besides that, you aren't even stable to take care of yourself

You can send financial to her but not to invite her over and place her on conditional living

Ask yourself if e make sense

Geeksamir:
Hmmm Just kukuma tell us that u want free kpekus

Abi oh... Guy you catch am. Na free toto de worry dis nigga

Kasieze:
You are 29 and you are not planning to settle down soon. Its ok

You de mind am? At free age of 29,you no know say you don old

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be ing the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

I will always tell every young man, As soon as you start earning, your family, In any possible way.
let your GF go wherever she is posted to. Your sister can move in with you and get trained in any skill.
If your GF moves in with you, One thing must happen, She will get pregnant. Avoid it!
remain blessed! I hope you do the right thing.

In case if anything goes wrong, you will be arrested for co-abitation.

NO.

Because you have all the reasons up there.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be ing the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

Stop having unprotected sex.

Toluwashe778:


bros, to the ops, he is trying to render assistance (i hope u get that)
the reasons why i suggested he should pray is that if his faith did not condemn it and if he is sure there will not be problem afterward then it is fine. or did ur bible not tell u about helping others?

He has a good intention towards her but the risk is also high

do you have to respond to everyone who quote you? people try to play assistant chineke in other people's lives!
i have read the bible before and i know how the character you call god is in that bible. for him, whatever you do with your body is completely your choice as it has nothing to do with him. this is why when people came to him to try to trap him with the question: who will the lady marry at the resurection after having married all seven brothers in life? he even ignored them in the first place, just to let them know how silly the question was. and when he eventually decided to answer them, he said: in heaven, they shall be like the angels! no man, no woman! this is very plane to understand and figure out; but apparently, the people didn't understand that marriage, sex, etc, are all human activities and to god, doesn't mean much. but he cares about you anyway and what you decide to do with yourself, how you plan your culture and society. that's why he attended that wedding, and when wine ran out, he provided more.

it is also the reason why when he met the lady at the well, he told her she has been married to seven men before and that the one she is currently with is not even her husband! he did not go after her full force like his assistant here is doing in his post responding to you. while you would say he did not want to condemn the lady, i would say he felt the lady and found out she was still was a joyful person despite having been married to 7people in the past and now with someone to whom she is not married. you could see this when you read that conversation again. but this time, try to sense the atmosphere and you will realise that only in few other instances did he have a more profound conversation with anyone.

he did not leave not leave many prescriptions for you in many of his teachings. apart from do this in memory of me, only in few other places did he leave doctrines for you. when it came to human to human interaction, he left it out for you to do that based on love and consideration for your fellow man.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be ing the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

Not planning to settle down any time soon and you are 29yrs old..... To be frank you seem kind of useless

Why are you in a relationship if I may ask?

She will soon dump you.

Let's bet it.

na only u dey complain about being broke nah only u dey ask if make u ask ur gf to come nah only u dey talk talk u no want make she come.


i getting tired of reading post by 15 yrs old kids claiming adult

Since you're not settling down soon i will advice you not to accommodate her...

There is no way she won't get pregnant if she lives with you and there is no way both of you won't fvck

Toluwashe778:
Candid advice

Pls pray well about it especially if u are a Christian because there is more to living together than pregnancy (anyway the probability of that happening is high). What if she fall sick?
What if anything happens her.

R u kidding me right nw?
Pray over a Gf matter to stay with you?
Ghawd plz jst blow this trumpet.. Plz I'm begging.

madgoat:


Not planning to settle down any time soon and you are 29yrs old..... To be frank you seem kind of useless

Lol, laugh wan kee me here, Bros I finished school 2018 after obtaining OND and Bsc, masters on my mind, now I have an apartment and a car, recently ed a business name to launch one of my ideas into a company before the year runs out, I don't know what you mean by useless but Bros, I won't even marry in the next 5years.

[quote author=Hightser post=90042521]Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be ing the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, My candid advise 4 u is: don't bring her to ur house yet because if u do, u wil definately get her pregnant that is 4 sure.

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be ing the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

......

Please I need advice and contributions.

You better sort out your finances first.

You will lose her if you invite her over, another guy who is loaded will chance you, except she's not beautiful and attractive.

That's the sad truth, we have seen it happen again and again, yours won't be the first, it also wouldn't be the last.

A word is enough for the wise.

No, absolutely not.

Don't accept the parental responsibilities of another person.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.
With what? Dickson? Tueh!

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.[b][/b]
And yet u can't feed her.
You are so selfish
Let me give u an advice.... That's d age for a man to start having kids...
I made that mistake n I regret it n imagine wanting to make this now, when my first child shd have been around 9yrs...
Think about this...
Once a child comes... It comes with blessings but then u Wil have to double ur hustle..
Unless u don't love this girl enough.. Anyways u r a selfish man

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be ing the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

See what our leaders did to us. At 29, guyman stil single. All d people dah fought for Nigeria independence are below 29.

@op, take ur time sha. Nor be competition dou. If you knw dah you not ready to settle down now, don’t accommodate her.

The Pros Of her staying with you is there will be constant sex undoubtedly and you won't be starve anytime and Anyday.

As per the feeding bro it's not posible she living with you and you saying she will handle her feeding by herself and you sorrlt yourself out

Being in a relationship already means You are One. and as they(women) see us we must always be in charge. nomatter the amount of money she makes she will still depend on you for sustenance within the house thats women generally

From what i see. the only advantage of her being with you is Sex! and sex is not all. you got a long way to go bro don't allow any girl use pussy to tie you down

"OVERCOMING POVERTY SHOULD BE YOUR PRIORITY"

and should be our priority as for all young hustlers in the world

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be ing the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.