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FaAbData: 12:53pm On Jun 06
Dogalmighty17:
As much as wife beating should never be condoned, I think the community took this too far. The man should send the woman back to her father's house. That's the best solution.

All of you saying send her to her father's house should understand divorce is not as easy as you think especially after many years of marriage, the house is now her house too

Any small thing, send her back to her father's house!

Both legally and traditionally divorcing a woman is a big deal
Kobojunkie: 12:54pm On Jun 06
NothingDoMe:
Your laws do not supercede the constitution of Nigeria. Na jungle justice naim una dey do so. Somebody go soon enter prison.
Since the man's assault against his wife is also against the law, the man should have been dragged off to jail, right? undecided
NothingDoMe: 12:58pm On Jun 06
Kobojunkie:
Since the man's assault against his wife is also against the law, the man should have been dragged off to jail, right? undecided
Yes Kobo. That is the lawful thing to do.

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alizma: 12:58pm On Jun 06
Deep down their heart, they know the truth about how the whole trouble started, that truth in their heart will go a long way in shaping their lives there after. If the land had wrong the woman, which is likely the case here, if I am correct, there is high possibility that he would live peacefully with the woman, men have a way of telling themselves the truth when their wrong doing catch up with them but if the woman had started the whole drama and yet let the man go through that, sooner or later, something dangerous will happen in that house, I pray that doesn't happen.
cr7lomo: 1:01pm On Jun 06
QuinQ:
Wow! I like this your community. This should be adopted nation-wide. Some men (a small minority) beat their wives constantly. A woman should NOT live in fear and walk on egg shells in her own home!

I know this is front page straight.

First To Comment (clap, clap, clap)

But women are more physically abusive than men and they feel they have the right to slap a man if they feel offended .... more men have collected slap from a woman than women collecting slap from men... we see it everywhere from movies , to skits to real life

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efembaba(m): 1:01pm On Jun 06
And then they go ahead to hit offenders brutally without proper prosecution as if you are in an animal kingdom and you're proud of this? Wow

ErebeOcoco:
No. We don't handle divorce.
Our laws says no hitting. No slapping. No fighting. No assault. Be it wife, husband or anyone else.

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Fryx: 1:03pm On Jun 06
A man that has no control over himself should not have the capability to feel humiliation. He will manage.
JuanDeDios: 1:04pm On Jun 06
ErebeOcoco:
I am proud to say my community is the safest in Cross River State.

After years of endurance in the hands of criminals, and cultists, the entire LGA decided to say enough is enough!
We rose up as one and put a stop to criminality and violence. Gang were sent on exile. Notorious cultists were burnt alive. And so many rules to guide against violence in any form was enacted.

We live in peace here.
Wow!
kushme: 1:04pm On Jun 06
Mathain19:
If I were to be from that community,I would have suggested we drink the beer before lashing the offender...
No Mercy grin cool

cheesy
I wonder why beer dey part of the fines to pay.
Youths wan drink beer, no money. Dem go begin look for people wey dey assault each other just to pay fine.
esosuo: 1:05pm On Jun 06
What of if woman beat man 😏😏😏. Na man dey always suffer for Nigeria oh or if woman slap man how many strokes and how much fine ?

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MadamExcellency: 1:07pm On Jun 06
prigoz:
If I were the man, the woman is going back to her father's house or I leave the house for her. Nonsense, it will give the women to act anyhow, after all the community is there to protect them.

What will you do if your siblings take her in and she lives as if you don't exist in the same compound with her children?
Eagleways: 1:08pm On Jun 06
ErebeOcoco:
No. We don't handle divorce.
Our laws says no hitting. No slapping. No fighting. No assault. Be it wife, husband or anyone else.
Welcomed development. What does your law say about wives who run their mouths at their husbands like bursted pipes?

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ReacherSaidNoth: 1:08pm On Jun 06
Assaulted by low-lifes and made to pay a fine? Can anything good come out of this shithole

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BadBradley: 1:11pm On Jun 06
ErebeOcoco:
Yesterday in my community, a lady reported that her husband assaulted her.

Now in my community, slapping, attracts a fine of 50k.

Fighting attracts a fine of 100k, 24 stroke of the cane and 1 carton of beer.

Threats of any sort attracts 100k and 1carton of beer.

Back to my story, the husband was arrested and whipped 24 stroke, and was made to pay a fine of 50k and 1 carton of beer.
And afterwards was sternly warned by the youths never to lay a finger on his woman again.

He was given a bottle of beer and told to take his wife home. grin

Men in the house, how would you live with your wife after such humiliation?

What amused me was the type of men and youths that came out to embarrass and advised the man on how to govern his home. grin

Sorry no pictured is allowed when there is public beating in the community otherwise I risk 150 strokes and 200k fine.


File photo used for illustration
I am genuinely concerned about your community and your mental health in 2025, more then I am about the man.

You all are a threat to civilisation, humanity and the world's nuclear family.

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Mathewrichard99: 1:12pm On Jun 06
So many things happening in this our cross river. Thoe other time on TV, I saw a community whereby the women are entitled to marry many guys. They are culturally endeared to marry many men, feed them, cater for them, give them money once in awhile while they do other things for you like cooking, washing, going with you to the farm to do farm work, sleeping with you and impregnating you. Shockingly, the men knows when a fellow co husband impregnated their wife. They all have their schedule of sleeping with their wife.....things are happening in this Naija.... Na wao
Eagleways: 1:12pm On Jun 06
Kokodeni:
Send her on an errands to the market to cook something special that will surely keep her in the market for a while
Then I order a bus that can move my basic personal effects like clothes documents credentials and other paper works. And that would be the last time she sets her eyes on me.

A man should never beat a woman talk less of his wife but certain things will never happen to me and remain the same... Never.....
you are a very sane man, my brother. The man is always at the receiving end. I could hardly see good numbers of grandfathers in most villages and towns nowadays. Men are endangered, they take a lot. Women will still abuse this opportunity. Talk to you anyhow and still expect you to take proper care of them
MadamExcellency: 1:13pm On Jun 06
efembaba:
And then they go ahead to hit offenders brutally without proper prosecution as if you are in an animal kingdom and you're proud of this? Wow


These are not landlords and tenants. They are kinsmen and siblings. It's a bloodline and the lines are drawn you shouldn't cross. Don't try to break the law. It's a customary law and it ends in customary courts. They win, you lose.
Obainomilano: 1:15pm On Jun 06
The man is an illiterate fool otherwise both wife and ur yeye community youths should be in jail now for taking laws into your hands and assaulting a full grown man ...u guys can be sued for attempted murder
CorperKola: 1:15pm On Jun 06
ErebeOcoco:
I am proud to say my community is the safest in Cross River State.

After years of endurance in the hands of criminals, and cultists, the entire LGA decided to say enough is enough!
We rose up as one and put a stop to criminality and violence. Gang were sent on exile. Notorious cultists were burnt alive. And so many rules to guide against violence in any form was enacted.

We live in peace here.
This is how men become stupid becos of women, even in the advanced countries, women have been caught injuring themselves by cameras so they can pin it on a man.
Any man that tries this with me should not mind whatever he sees
Any punishment for the women at all in all these
Or only men deserve beatings and punishment, I just laugh.
I actually want someone to try this with me, them go know say no be everybody well
Except i dont understand the whole situation sha
Anytime there is a fight, quarrel or argument, only the men get punished. Hehehe
Very funny indeed

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MadamExcellency: 1:16pm On Jun 06
BadBradley:
I am genuinely concerned about your community and your mental health in 2025, more than I am about the man.

You all are a threat to civilisation, humanity and the world's nuclear family.


This is a customary law, and the Nigerian constitution has courts for that, which by the high courts and appeal courts. It's part of civilisation.
QuinQ: 1:17pm On Jun 06
Sonnobax15:
lipsrsealed
Your community wan do U.S.A and U.K angry

Anyways,if I were to be in that man's shoe,(God forbid),what I'd have done would have been leaving with her,and then show her the exact route that leads to her father's house afterwards angry

That's the big flaw in our traditional matrimonial system. You nearly beat a woman to death, and if she complains she's still the one to leave her home, instead of the husband. Highly unfair. Different if she were the one doing bad
Amsickindahead: 1:17pm On Jun 06
E sure me say na obudu for crs be dat. What an archaic minded set of people.
MadamExcellency: 1:19pm On Jun 06
Obainomilano:
The man is an illiterate fool otherwise both wife and ur yeye community youths should be in jail now for taking the law into their hands and assaulting a full-grown man ...u guys can be sued for attempted murder

Na wa for these children born and bred in the township that don't know anything about customary courts and the customary court of appeal. This case isn’t for a normal court in Nigeria.
QuinQ: 1:19pm On Jun 06
Amsickindahead:
E sure me say na obudu for crs be dat. What an archaic minded set of people.

Nigeria needs this type of archaic mindedness. We'd stop cuddling people like Evans and all these cultists and send them straight to hell
BadBradley: 1:20pm On Jun 06
MadamExcellency:


This is a customary law, and the Nigerian constitution has courts for that, which by the high courts and appeal courts. It's part of civilisation.
The sheer boldness with which this ignorance is expressed is even more damning than the original post
Mypeople2(m): 1:22pm On Jun 06
ErebeOcoco:
Yesterday in my community, a lady reported that her husband assaulted her.

Now in my community, slapping, attracts a fine of 50k.

Fighting attracts a fine of 100k, 24 stroke of the cane and 1 carton of beer.

Threats of any sort attracts 100k and 1carton of beer.

Back to my story, the husband was arrested and whipped 24 stroke, and was made to pay a fine of 50k and 1 carton of beer.
And afterwards was sternly warned by the youths never to lay a finger on his woman again.

He was given a bottle of beer and told to take his wife home. grin

Men in the house, how would you live with your wife after such humiliation?

What amused me was the type of men and youths that came out to embarrass and advised the man on how to govern his home. grin

Sorry no pictured is allowed when there is public beating in the community otherwise I risk 150 strokes and 200k fine.


File photo used for illustration
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣When the man gets to the house ,it will be cold war

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MadamExcellency: 1:26pm On Jun 06
BadBradley:
The sheer boldness with which this ignorance is expressed is even more damning than the original post

In my community, our kinsmen go to the police and obtain permission and treat any community issue as it regards their law. Most of you are just ignorant of how most cases are settled.

Have you been to a customary court or followed the cases adjudicated there? Do you know how they appoint the heads?
QuinQ: 1:28pm On Jun 06
cr7lomo:


But women are more physically abusive than men and they feel they have the right to slap a man if they feel offended .... more men have collected slap from a wiman than women collecting slap from men... we see it everywhere from movies , to skits to real life

Harddiskng:


Hope you would keep the same energy when the woman is whipped then fined for disrespecting her husband

Yeah? Well, see below - 50 women beaten to death by their husbands/boyfriends in 3 months, not a single man beaten to death by his

danietohbadt(m): 1:28pm On Jun 06
It's Delta State right?
Harddiskng(m): 1:28pm On Jun 06
QuinQ:
Wow! I like this your community. This should be adopted nation-wide. Some men (a small minority) beat their wives constantly. A woman should NOT live in fear and walk on egg shells in her own home!

I know this is front page straight.

First To Comment (clap, clap, clap)

Hope you would keep the same energy when the woman is whipped then fined for disrespecting her husband

QuinQ: 1:30pm On Jun 06
BadBradley:
The sheer boldness with which this ignorance is expressed is even more damning than the original post

If you consider my screenshot above maybe it won't be so damning - 50 women beaten to death in 3 months!
QuinQ: 1:34pm On Jun 06
danietohbadt:
It's Delta State right?

Cross River, CR, CR writen all over the place. Can't you read?

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