NewStats: 3,264,404 , 8,183,620 topics. Date: Tuesday, 10 June 2025 at 10:35 PM 696u26

The beauty of life is everyone has one regret or the other. Let your regrets fuel you to strive more and be better.

Achieverxoxo:
i regret being too serious in sch like i dont even have friends and its so sickening to feel all alone and no friends. havent ever been to a date no club no girls trip no flowers no nothing i was busy forming serious tech sis, going for tech events up and down i didnt even know people where learning skills. likeeee, i dont even have any tech skilll, no friends and now people think she has her life figured out already omo i de die in silence

Having friends won't save you either, you've chosen an interest in tech, horn your skill and be good at it , learn marketing too, very important, trust me, you don't even need any tech meeting just land foreign gigs and work low-key.


It you think you need connections to make it in Tech, I'm sorry but you're not ready. You only need your laptop, internet, Dedication and effective seriousness to learn and keep improving. Update your progress on X, trust me, foreign clients will come for you. Just use the right tags on all your posts


. Anyone telling you need connection to make money is deceiving you, without skills, no one will look your side

I moved on. Fvck the past mistakes.

Babypal:
My greatest mistake in life is impregnating a lady without knowing her properly

Same here bro
Am experiencing hell on earth tbh

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

Bros, very sorry to hear this. There are a lot of inevitable challenges in life which we face as human at one point of our life or the other. We fight mainly unseen war, which we can only win through prayers, constant, committed and serious ones for that matter.

I went to school in America too and came back. We were quite many who took this daring and brave path. I won't say risky because Nigeria remains a land of so many untapped opportunities. Ask Chinese and Indians who keep thronging Nigeria and they'd tell you more.

One of the unseen battles is the foundational battle, either from maternal or paternal side. Lust for women too chase away opportunities and can make you lose focus. Let me share a friend's experience with you. In early 2000s, he won a scholarship from his state's governor to school in the UK. He was a child of nobody. He was just lucky to have been selected as the only one who applied for the particular discipline and area of interest to his state's government. The idea was for them to return and contribute their quota to the state in return. They were also allowed to go back and leave the government employment, if they wish, 3 years after they had served their state govt. Those UK universities reps came to Nigeria and had interviews and chitchat with the scholars and on-the-spot ission letters were issued to them, in line with their areas/courses applied for.

To cut the long story short, my friend's visa appointment had been scheduled, alongside other beneficiaries. Barely 4 days to the visa interview, one girl that had once turned down his request to date her surfaced. She said she just came to see him and would like to leave the following day. My friend ate her. The following day, another one, whom he had met while in the university came, one thing led to another and he slept with her.

On the day of interview, all of them participated. Only him had his application rejected. He cried like a baby and said he'd like to see me. I now told him to start praying for God's favour and stop the act. Those ladies came to cause him misfortune. They may not be ordinary. By the time the 2nd batch of his university ission was announced in the UK, he reapplied for his student visa and his visa application was approved. He fasted for days until after the interview. Today, he's a PhD holder consulting for a group of multinationals. I wouldn't want to say much. Every man knows where he fell and solution to his rising. You'd bounce back bro. Just keep praying, believing in God and stay focused

oluwaseyi0:
Not enjoying myself and having fun in school

This life no balance. Another person regret is enjoying too much in school that led to something negative. This life is all about balance.

Celsony:


Really, can you tell me more please because my mom no approve 2 already and she is suggesting a lady for me.

Dont listen to that man. Your mum shouldn't decide whom to marry. However, they could advise you on things to watch out for..
Forget it, once your mother decides who you marry, she'd keep dictating how you run your home
Pray, watch and observe the person you want to marry, if you are satisfied. Go ahead
Much love

Akalia:
I regret not taking my late dad's educational advise to switch to university education after my OND programme. I insisted on going for my HND because I wanted to graduate fast and then run fast with life. Unfortunately, that wasn't meant to be.

Great career building opportunities as job slots came my way but because I didn't hold a B.sc qualification but HND I lost the slots.

Not having B.sc deprived me the one great opportunity to fulfil my dream of becoming a pilot cos as at then I got an opportunity through my uncle-an aeronautical engineer to bristow helicopters and be trained to become a rotary wing pilot at their flying school at ibadan, (no expense on me) but I was disqualified as only B.sc graduates were needed and I had HMD qualification.

Thank God today that I am not doing bad for myself, God in his mercy redirected my path career wise and things are always looking up for me.

I'm here feeling emotional on your behalf because I know exactly what you're going through. I hope you keep excelling in whatever field you've found yourself.

Marc3500:
if you like no cash am out

He will later become commenter number 100 on this very thread if he doesn't cash out

I was 27 yrs when I caught my wife with 3 children all girls with a man in our materimonials bed , which nearly cost me my life ,thank God I survived it ,but I took responsibility of the all the girls by taken them awa6with me,but today they're all married,doing well but failed to recognise me as their father, this really made me so sad

Sonofgod1990:
One of my scrotum is telling me to Cash dis game out

this is simple.. Stake 10k for under 1.5...that should almost triple ur stake, that is a seal deal that u must make a profit of atleast 30k
...dont cash out.. If it enters ur profit will be 50k..be wise.

My greatest mistake just happened, I go carry Manchester city to win Southampton 😥😥😥😥😥

PROPEACE:
I Left Nigeria in my mid 20s, completed my MSc with a fully funded scholarship in UK, the son of poor naija civil servants o! Used my two legs to come back to Nigeria. My European girlfriend discouraged me from returning, she told me we should get married, I said no, I struggled for over a decade believing hardwork and merit in Nigeria will get me there. I was interviewed many times by several government agencies in Nigeria but never got the job, today I sit in my 40s licking my wounds. My naija friends that were friendly while I was there have vanished. Some have humiliated me before leaving when it seemed to them the tunnel I am in has no end to it. My biggest undoing in life is I believed too much in this country. Today, my peers that stayed back in UK are doing very well as citizens. I am trying very hard not to give up. Still strategizing. It's hard but deep down in me, I know I have learnt so much. Too much to not make it in the end. I pray for God to grant me long life.

What of your European woman?

Sonofgod1990:
One of my scrotum is telling me to Cash dis game out

I fit see like 1K

dauntless15:
Being too nice and loosing my guard around people, almost everyone I ever trusted stabbed me in the back including those I called family, the betrayal was loud, now I don't have anyone I trust in this life.

For teaching Dem Survey crumbs hunting

pocohantas:
Not learning to ride bicycle when I was small. Now it is hard.

I learnt it in my 30s so you can.

BurntDodo:


I'm here feeling emotional on your behalf because I know exactly what you're going through. I hope you keep excelling in whatever field you've found yourself.

Amen!!
I appreciate it.

ManOfSon:
I'll answer by giving an assignment/homework. Just put "OccupyNigeria" in Google search. That's all.

I did, and I'd say protest was valid, and the aim was (partially) achieved.

So, how did it affect you negatively?
Why do you regret being a part of it?

nony43:





What of your European woman?

We maintained for over 15 years. We chatted even yesterday. She still cracks joke about how I refused to marry her and how cute our kids would've been.

PROPEACE:

We maintained for over 15 years. We chatted even yesterday. She still cracks joke about how I refused to marry her and how cute our kids would've been.

lol. That’s what they say. I have a lot of Oyibos but I can’t marry them.

1. Getting married to her.

pimplucious:
Leaving Nigeria for UK for my masters immediately after graduation. Mistake.

How is it a mistake?

nony43:



lol. That’s what they say. I have a lot of Oyibos but I can’t marry them.

What who says?

Blitzking:
Buying luna at 15 dollars 100k naira worth when dollars was 570 or so


Not focusing on my laptop and phone sales business

Not accepting my first set of a Job in lagos

Investing 1800 dollars in a crypto project that was the profit I made by investing 400 dollars ..should have just cashed out and used the money to do other things

Not banging one of my ex in her office..well I didn't have cd on that fateful day before she moved to Uk

Buying a land that my mum advised me to buy..3plots in yewa ogun state that the man needed money for his child school fees he later died and his brother resold the land cos I hardly visited the area.

Selling my 168 solana at 10 dollars cos I needed to pay for wedding hall and other expenses cos everywhere been tight

Nobody deprecates as 40+ except they are sick. You can learn something new and start a fresh carrier that you can practice into your 60s

occfx:


Means you were born in the 80s...you witness IBB, as a kid, you didn't learn, witnessed brutal Abacha still didn't learn witness the highest electoral fraud in 2003 by Morris Iwu yet you believed in the zoo. Oh no. I suspected one big nyashhh brought you back and dumped you or village people connected with you without effort and remote controlled you.

At 40s...your energy will be dropping drastically... It's only your money/experience or knowledge will work for you. Physically, you are depreciating very fast and should be talking of retirement. No giving up... My own too I was stupid during my active years but I coupling back

Interesting responses.

Mine are:

- Not learning mathematics deeply while in secondary school and in the university.
- Not making a first class
- Not much of an issue, but not knowing how to toast/woo ladies while in the university.

PROPEACE:

Okay, because you asked I will tell you. Though I am from a humble background, I never knew failure. I excelled in about everything I tried. I was the best in the primary school, best in secondary, third best in university. Though my parents were not well to do, I aspired to study in UK and on my first trial, I got a scholarship! I won my MSc. scholarship four days after my NYSC POP. My UK supervisor told me to stay back and work with her while doing a PhD but I refused and came back. My problem was overconfidence in myself. I just believed I will get a good job in Nigeria without any challenge and after working a couple of years, I will go back for my PhD. After all, hings always work out for me. A long streak of success wrecked me.

So a long streak of success can actually wreck someone? Wow

Mariangeles:


I did, and I'd say protest was valid, and the aim was (partially) achieved.

So, how did it affect you negatively?
Why do you regret being a part of it?

The Occupy Nigeria was a pretext to remove Jonathan. Who replaced Jonathan? How did it go for Nigeria?

PROPEACE:

What who says?

I mean Oyibos will tell you how you guys will have Bi racial kids and the rest.

onuman:
ing APC when it was formed.

Too many naive Easterners. I wonder why so many ign.orant and largely arr.ogant Igbos campaigned and voted for Buhari in 2015.

My mistakes led me to become highly philosophical.

When I was a teenager, I was really thin because I always had difficulty sleeping. One day, I discovered alcohol in my mom's bedroom, I took some and slept like a baby and it made me feel good too. My mom allowed me, a teenager, continue drinking this poison.

I became addicted to alcohol. I was a master alcoholic. In my early 20s, I'd drink 4 cans of bullet and still carry on like it was water.

Eventually I fell sick in 2020. So sick I lost 24kg. No doctor could explain what was going on. Wasted all my youth going hospital to hospital. Couldn't hangout with my friends anymore or take a gf. Couldn't maintain a job. My life became stagnant.

Eventually sometime in 2024 while thinking about my situation and reading books, something clicked in my head that led me to finding spirituality. Not religion, spirituality. To connect with nature. To return to a forgotten culture. To do what feels good for me. Agriculture, high oxygen, hobbies, laughter, mud house, natural food, watching the sunset, getting away from capitalism and it's destructive creations/lifestyles.

That's the journey I'm on right now. And I'm so convinced it is the solution to fixing my mistakes and my destiny. But I just can't tap into it. I don't know how to tap into that agriculture part, that culture. I'm still living in my mistakes.


What I learnt so far is:
As a youth don't blame yourself for anything. It was the elders that created this nasty capitalistic society. It is their duty to protect you, to leave for you a better culture than the European virus one. It is this foreign culture that causes marital, financial, addiction crises. If some made it out, became successful, they just got lucky. There's no village person doing anything.

Sonofgod1990:
One of my scrotum is telling me to Cash dis game out

Guy😂