NewStats: 3,264,081 , 8,182,537 topics. Date: Monday, 09 June 2025 at 03:20 PM l535v

Numerouno94:
I don't joke wit my mama. While growing up mom can give me her last card just to make me happy. But Popsy despite having in abundance will tell u his gat no penny.

There is a connection between mom nd I, we share secrets and tell eachother alot. But Popsy always forming the macho man and keeping to himself.

Looking at the above, tell me who I go share natural bond wit ?

Bro, u will soon be dad too. U wil understand your dad better. There is no way I can explain to u now that u wil understand

Sometimes the mothers even do the hustle, the men will use their money for other chicks

Although not all fathers are like that, some children are closer to their fathers, because they understand their father is more caring and maybe wise, something like that

KingMack:
mothers spend time with their children here and leave all the hustling to their pops😏

Na mostly men dey do this rubbish(placing one parent above the other).
Go to social media and see how they are all about mommy worship while acting like their fathers are inconsequential forgetting that they will be fathers tomorrow.

obembet:
I believe most of us love our Parents equally but, we tend to be a little closer showing our Mother our love better. But why in some homes the children after making it in life come back to take better care of their moms than their dads?

Of course, I know that some fathers are what I call deadbeat dads who must have bottles of beers every evening at the expense of hungry children.

But there are alot of father out there who care so much about Thier children.

Another thing we need to understand is that Nothing brings a man more happiness than having a successful son, seeing his son sur him. In this context, fathers often raise their sons with a firm hand, instilling lessons through tough love and challenging environments. But many of us don't see this, we only focus on hash and hard training.

Many children still don't know that some moms manipulate the children emotionally to believe they care for them more than their fathers do.

My TAKE

As a father, apart from been a responsible father, father should always try to provide things what their children want and give it to them directly. Father should no allow someone else to take Thier efforts glory.

Also, Give your kids hugs, kisses, hold hands, rub their backs, or snuggle with them. Let the children see this.

Most of nowadays mother are selfish and only care about themselves alone

Source: obembet

obembet:


Cos u don't want him to know

Co

you don't know anything about me bro, stop projecting your ideologies into my life.

obembet:


Bro, u will soon be dad too. U wil understand your dad better. There is no way I can explain to u now that u wil understand

You can’t explain it. They will never understand.

Gr

SeriouslySense:
Thats true

When the child is ill, its mostly the mother that is by the child

When the child is having emotional issues, its the mother that talks gently to the child, that gentleness bonds the child more.

When the child is having financial needs, the mother will try her best to ensure the child is okay financially.



Sometimes some African Men neglect their children, they do not even try to talk to them in gentleness to understand their children.
They may have money, but choose not to prioritize the child's financial needs. And they do not build the capacity of their children

It makes sense that the child will be closer to the parent that is present, that nurtures more and is more understanding.

Words on marble.

A common characteristic of all living things is "Sensitivity". Every living thing response to its stimuli". A child will always respond love back to who loved them first genuinely. The mother breastfeeded the child when the child cried for food on getting into the world. ..She continues breastfeeding the child anytime the child cries a little.
Mummy wey dey pamper like as God dey pamper us🙏🙏🙏🤲🤲🤲.

Why are you referring to fathers as deadbeat but not mothers? Is something wrong with your reasoning faculty? Or is it that women aren't deadbeats? Do you know why you didn't refer to your gender as deadbeat? This is because women are aliens to ability and responsibilities always thinking they should be benefiting rather than giving for the betterment of a union. A single father raises his child alone but the woman that had the child with him isn't referred to as deadbeat but a single mother raises her child alone and the man she had her child with is referred to as deadbeat, this is why men aren't appreciated.

A man sees no reason to spoil the mind of his kids towards the woman that bore the child but a woman finding herself in same scenario will spoil the minds of the children leading to bad blood between father and children.

Mention 10 men who were great dads to their children, but who got abandoned by all of them when he grew old.

Numerouno94:
I don't joke wit my mama. While growing up mom can give me her last card just to make me happy, she doesn't mind getting loans for me. But Popsy despite having in abundance will tell u his gat no penny. I wouldn't call him Stingy, but his only being careful about his finances so the family won't go broke. I figured it out later.

There is a connection between mom nd I, we share secrets and tell eachother alot. But Popsy always forming the macho man and keeping to himself.

Looking at the above, tell me who I go share natural bond wit ?

The good thing is that you're a man.

gigabyte13:
Person wey give you breast suck for two years
You think say breast easy to come by.....
That one na one

Two
Men think say, na only to provide be them work
Mtchewwwwwwwwww
They are not emotionally attached to this children.
Any small thing
Go and meet your Mummy.
Na that go and meet your Mummy gan gan the matter take bend .

You think finding money is easy? Having a husband na protection for women

Beremx:
some men are actually like this you know

True that.

obembet:


Bro, u will soon be dad too. U wil understand your dad better. There is no way I can explain to u now that u wil understand

Yeah, I leta figured it out that he wasn't being stingy, rather was being careful wit his finances so the family won't be lacking or go broke. As I begin hussle as a man and paying my bills I began to understand everything Popsy did, he did for the best. But all that naturally drew me close to mom.

PairsMedia:
Father can never win this side of the game.
Most men had to work extral to provide, making you tire and emotionally unavailable.

And if u want to be emotionally available you will not meet up with finicial demands.
Another pressure.

So as a man, take care of yourself and prepare for future. And take good care of your family...


But don't neglect your health

While one is natural, the other is but a function of proof! The natural prevails all the time.

What category do you place a father who tells his children that he is not attached to them. The same father denies their children going to school or the basic things of life whenever he has a fallout with their mother?.

You see that Asake's story, people should ask him what he went through with his father.
Again how do you think children will relate to their father if they had to find out from someone else that their father impregnated another woman and has children even without their knowledge?. There are things children see and experience that make them get closer to their mothers. At times it's out of pity especially if their mothers are treated badly by their fathers.

But again, to balance it, I have seen my friends children that are closer to their fathers. Because he decided to pay more attention to them, do school runs, homeworks and engage them in useful activities.

You see, children will definitely tilt towards who shows them more love and affection. It doesn't have any thing to do with their mothers manipulating them. They see things and they discuss amongst themselves or with their friends in school and in their neighborhood

Surprisingly, my children are closer to me than their mom. I play lots of roles in their lives, which they see. I take them to school; do assignments with them; take them to church; take them out; attend to all their schools requests, including parental and open day visits; iron their clothes; put them through life lessons. They hardly make any request to their mom. Everything is about me. They hardly discuss anything concerning their education or school with their mom. They must wait for me. I hardly see them make requests about where they want to go; assistance with school work or when sick to their mom. It's me. When sick or not feeling fine, I will be the first to be told except when I am not around. However, the mom carries on with the nursing aspect of their care when sick till full recovery. It's all about getting involved in their total formation and development

pocohantas:


In most cases, no mother is manipulating any child to believe they care for them more. Every child would grow to figure out their parents. As a parent, your child would figure you out someday. Then they will quietly pick a side.

When the kids are good to their father, I haven't seen anyone accusing the mother of manipulating the kids to love him. Neither do they accuse the father of manipulating the kids to hate their mother. But when it is other way, it is the mother.

Many of the guys ranting online do not rate their fathers highly and their mothers have nothing to do with it.

Forget redpil. Many people lack common sense.
Both parents contributed to their children.
It's lack of sense than make men think mother deserve more.
But some men don't make their self dependant on their children wealth. My grandfather did not depend on what come from my dad it's only my grandmother that was dependant.
My daddy till today has all he needs.
Women are dependent being, they depend on parent, husband and children.
Making it look like they receive more care.

To me
The rezn is that, men don't take bullshit from our kids but women can tolerate when kids are exiting their bad attitude

To me
The rezn is that, men don't take bullshit from our kids but women can tolerate when kids are exibiting their bad attitude

1.Mothers show more emotions/sentiments.
2.The bonding in the womb and early life of the child.

Iweakbro:


The good thing is that you're a man.

Bro, as a man now I understand everything better. But, Unfortunately, my thinking back then made me and mum inseparable. But I still gat my popsy back anytime anyday.

I love my father more

Agbadocassava:
That’s why you have to marry four wives at least one child from each mother will like you, that’s four children liking their father.

they will all like their mother

because the mothers pamper them

That is one thing, sometimes men are more careful with finances, they plan and stick to it.

I think they should plan for their children too and building them up and also spoiling them sometimes

Numerouno94:
I don't joke wit my mama. While growing up mom can give me her last card just to make me happy, she doesn't mind getting loans for me. But Popsy despite having in abundance will tell u his gat no penny. I wouldn't call him Stingy, but his only being careful about his finances so the family won't go broke. I figured it out later.

There is a connection between mom nd I, we share secrets and tell eachother alot. But Popsy always forming the macho man and keeping to himself.

Looking at the above, tell me who I go share natural bond wit ?

Anyone who loves their mothers more than their fathers is a big fuul. I've always said it and I repeat it, mother's love is overrated.

PriceActionZ:
Mother are closer to children most times while papa goes out to hustle, sometimes for days. In the course of those outings, he can get distracted along the line with other women, so giving lesser attention to his home. Even the one with no extra affairs still get abandoned. So in the process, women can be speaking bad of their father in children presence while the father is away. It's mostly a continuous situation. Women like comfort life, they will do anything to get kids to their side when things get sweeter unless as a father you no gree and fight back before things get worse..

Same applicable to some women, when they leave their kids earlier and they are bond to their father. But most times it's the father own always at the bad end.

God go bless u for this

My kids don't have to love me more than their mother. They only have to love me too, and I'm okay with that. They just have to understand my sacrifices, my efforts, and the reason for my absence if necessary. No be competition.
Is 9 months a joke to you? Plus the 1st 4-5 years where children is almost fully dependent on their mother. That is life's deal to men. Just play your part fully and you won't regret it later.

pocohantas:


In most cases, no mother is manipulating any child to believe they care for them more. Every child would grow to figure out their parents. As a parent, your child would figure you out someday. Then they will quietly pick a side.

When the kids are good to their father, I haven't seen anyone accusing the mother of manipulating the kids to love him. Neither do they accuse the father of manipulating the kids to hate their mother. But when it is other way, it is the mother.

Many of the guys ranting online do not rate their fathers highly and their mothers have nothing to do with it.

Momma-worship is fuelled mostly by MEN. You hear things like, 1) no one can love you more than your mother. 2) You can insult me anyhow, but if you insult my mother, blood will flow. 3) I want to make my mother proud. 4) If I make money, I will spoil my mum, that woman done too suffer.

I have seen even hardened redpillers make these aforementioned statements with same mouth they use to say no woman can love you. Are their mothers not women? #Logic101

Why don't they ever show this level of loyalty and ion to their fathers since they know fathers are sweet? Not too long ago, there was a Twitter thread of guys insulting their friend's late father. It was mostly men endorsing it. They said it is brotherhood condolence. Something they wouldn't tolerate if their mother was the dead one.

Father's Day, rather than go offline to make it memorable for their fathers, they will stay online, jumping from one vag**a topic to the other and blaming feminism. Whereas 99% haven't called their fathers in 1month.


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Please leave women alone on this overflogged topic. Start from your fathers. Show them love. Start singing of how no woman comes close to your father. Until then, male advocacy remains a reaction to female's. Never as a standalone or genuine love or concern for themselves.

My prayer for you is, may you and your lineage not encounter evil women especially those that wear the cloak of Christianity.

Acidosis:
You didn’t identify the real issue. The main problem is children trying to fight for their mothers. If your mother married a useless man and they separated, whether she left him or he abandoned her, and he still did his best for you in his own capacity, then you shouldn’t be taking your mother’s role in your father’s life. Allow your mom to fight her own battles. Relate to your father and pay your dues, show respect, as long as he did his best as a father. His role as a husband is not your business. While it’s painful that you’re unable to learn the acts of husbandhood from him, it’s still a battle beyond your jurisdiction. We must realize that the separation of parents already gives one party, usually the mother, an edge over the other, and children must not be oblivious to this fact.

in any situation, children love their mother more and it's natural even in the animal kingdom

masterfactor:
That is how nature intended it to be, A mother carrys a child for 9 month, the child eat from what she eat, the mother supplied all the needed nutrients for the child to develop, when it time for the child to leave the womb, it the mother that pushed it out, the first cry is heard by the mother, the mother is the first face the child see, it the mother that breast feed the child, put the child on her back, for the first 5 years of the child life, it the mother that's in it and you say the child should not be more connected to the mother. As a father just do your best for your child and never compete for a child love against the mother. No matter how bad a mother is, the child will always love the mother

And so?