NewStats: 3,265,415 , 8,186,677 topics. Date: Saturday, 14 June 2025 at 08:37 PM 14c6q

DemonSlayer:
Madly in love with? Naah, too old for that sh!t.

However, if the question were what turned you off from someone you fancied, I could pull out a fairly recent instance. I could list a bunch of things that turned me off, but here are the top 7.

1. She has a habit of interrupting. I'd be right in the middle of a sentence expressing my thoughts, and she'd just hijack the conversation. I find that rude and off-putting. I'm not used to struggling to put a word in, or having to raise my voice in a perfectly civil conversation just to be heard. Along the same lines is:


2. She talks too much. We could be on the phone for an hour, and she'd have talked for 55 minutes. I understand the stereotype of the talkative female, but a conversation is supposed to be a dialogue, not a soliloquy, for a reason. I tend to think this behavior signals a self-centered person.

About 3 weeks in, I knew virtually everything about her—down to the marital issues of her parents' neighbours back home. Leading us to:


3. She's always on the phone with her mom or sister, sharing the latest gossip—be it about an extended family member, a church member, a neighbour, etc. Every 10 or 15 minutes, the phone rings—mommy is calling. Even informing her mom of my presence when I visit. Not far from this is:


4. She shares secrets of mutual friends/acquaintances without being asked. I literally have a big sack of people's secrets that I'm taking to my grave and I don't understand why people just volunteer other people's secrets when there isn't a 🔫 pressed to their temple.


5. She talks about her own beauty too much. If it's not her luxuriant, long black hair, it's her spotless fair skin, and the list of people who fell for her because of these features. Let others compliment you; don't be so self-obsessed.


6. She fakes virtue. Always talking about acts of kindness and generosity that she and her family have done.


7. And finally, the most scary thing—the straw that broke the camel's back—is: she once gave me 32 missed calls in a single day. Maybe it's a joke or something, but to me, it was absolute psycho!

32 missed calls? That's some serious serial killer vibes.

VinnyBaba:


She travelled to visit her 'Cousin' for 3weeks.

But when she came back, the Slim looking Girl was now very FAT with stretch marks and with bigger YANCH..

Was clear that the 'Cousin' Akamu that she constantly took must have been very THICK!

You're obviously a kid!!
So 3 weeks sex will make someone very thick with stretch marks?

Mummyfour:
see ehn!! I knew him when I was very young. He was so involved in my family and I guess I was told naive to notice the red flags then. A lot of things I saw then, I waved aside thinking that when we got older and more matured he would drop those things. Boy! I was wrong. It got worse. How does a man dish out 6 hot slaps on one side of a woman's cheeks because she confided in his elder brother to tell him to stop smoking cigarettes because of his weight. His anger was that I should not have told his brother he smokes. My face was swollen for almost a week

Ahhhhh, am a male. Assault is no no for me 😕

Samantha125:
There was a guy I once liked and I was considering on giving him a chance, until I found he was always drinking and smoking while partying almost every weekend.

I don't do baby daddies and guys who smoke and drink, even if he does drink, it has to be occasionally.

I don't some and drink. Will you consider me?

Me I am planning to dump one, woman always want me to figure out what is wrong with her without she saying it, like am I witchcraft or something

But you hate South Africans.

7demons:

I don't some and drink. Will you consider me?

id4sho:


Ahhhhh, am a male. Assault is no no for me 😕

God bless you

Dogalmighty17:


Are you still with him?

He threw me out of the house at midnight so many years ago. He and his siblings said that a prophet told them I was a witch and wanted to kill him. I knew it was simply because I was trying to do a little marketing of products to be earning small small money by the side o. Because any time we had issues, he would deny me access to funds. So his ego was damaged 😀😀

So they threw me out o.

Sp1ritHusband:


It was not your duty to build his confidence.

of course it should not be me, but I tried doing it for peace sake.

tollyboy5:

How do you fall in love with someone this m@d. You're also a problem to have make such heavy mistake and give birth to four

. Me sef I no understand myself ooo. I was young and naive.it took a toll on me

AntiChristian:
She asked for my mum's name at the request of her mum or so (divination things)!

I just stopped all correspondences with her immediately and forever!

See taqiyya
What is the business of an islamist with love
The topic is love Alfa not marriage and divorce

mrkenny05:


We, nice man still dey,
But your 'kind' hardly see ...

NOTE : KIND ...

without being self delusional but with pure clarity of purpose,
You meet us,
But we are far a rare gem,
Hard to come by,
Often misjudged by outward..
But we know who we are,
Silently living life,
Contented with little we have,
Praying for more to come ...
Living a crime free life, cos we never force things to our way....

We are serious commiter to any relationship,
Business, partnership and love life....

Ohh,

Where would you meet us....
With this our yearly comment...

E-mail for an enquiry.....

🤣🤣 how nice

Dogalmighty17:


32 missed calls? That's some serious serial killer vibes.

Absolutely! Huge red flag 🚩

For more context, I think she overestimated how much she meant to me. Something happened, and she demanded an apology. I didn't believe I was in the wrong, so I told her she'd wait an eternity for that apology. Unfortunately for her, she decided to use the silent treatment manipulation tactic. I ignored her, and that was when the 32 missed calls happened.

When I called back the next day, she sounded all meek, and when I noted the number of missed calls, she said she thought something bad had happened to me and that she was worried. It was still crazy, though.

Mummyfour:
He threw me out of the house at midnight so many years ago. He and his siblings said that a prophet told them I was a witch and wanted to kill him. I knew it was simply because I was trying to do a little marketing of products to be earning small small money by the side o. Because any time we had issues, he would deny me access to funds. So his ego was damaged 😀😀

So they threw me out o.

This really torches my heart. Where are you now? How are you holding up? How is life treating you?

joseph1832:
Her lies. Good lord. She lies too much. The most annoying thing is, her lies are just silly. Lol

Give an example na

chrisxxx:
For the first time I am revealing this.
Someone I loved and met her as a graduate could neither write nor read.
To me it was unbelievable. I didnt have a job and my family was looking up to me to lift the family out of poverty having being sponsored by them through school.
I considered marrying her would be additional burden to me. I regretted my action after a while. I reasoned like a human and never trusted God.
She knew why I didnt marry her. She felt bad and some years later I realised she could now read and write but to at least JSS 3 level. Although, then what I needed was just a simple read and write.

actually you shouldn’t feel bad. I think you did the right thing. Women rarely settle for less so why should you?

Mummyfour:
🤣🤣 how nice

Nice seeing you smiling.....
Message well delivered,

BUT, we are being 'sincere' here,

Our cryptic messages are genuine....

Mummyfour:
see ehn!! I knew him when I was very young. He was so involved in my family and I guess I was too naive to notice the red flags then. A lot of things I saw then, I waved aside thinking that when we got older and more matured he would drop those things. Boy! I was wrong. It got worse. How does a man dish out 6 hot slaps on one side of a woman's cheeks because she confided in his elder brother to tell him to stop smoking cigarettes because of his weight. His anger was that I should not have told his brother he smokes. My face was swollen for almost a week

I'm so sorry for you to have such terrible experience.
I think he was far too older than you, your parent should have guided you properly.
All is well tho.
It's safer to be single with peace of mind than to be with a beast.
I hope you're doing well now?

Crucialgem:
Me I am planning to dump one, woman always want me to figure out what is wrong with her without she saying it, like am I witchcraft or something

don't. Wait, don't dump her yet.

Girls/ladies/women are all the same, they communicate through body language, expecting u to decipher them.

If u dump her cos of this reason, the next female will do worse. Just chill and understand this female psychology.

I met her while getting things in the market around mile2 Orile axis,on our first date, she requested for Amala and Egusi soup,cum see as she de demolish d food like a prisoner, after dat day I blocked her.[/quote]I met her while gettings in the market around mile2 Orile axis,on our first date, she requested for Amala and Egusi soup,cum see as she de demolish d food like a prisoner, after dat day I blocked her.

Dogalmighty17:


This really torches my heart. Where are you now? How are you holding up? How is life treating you?

it was the worst time of my life. No jobs, no business, no money, but my friends stood by me. I contemplated suicide severally, but the live if my children held me back. At a point I tried going to beg the same person that threw me out for the sake of being with my children, but my son and older daughter told me that if I did that,they would never forgive me because they preferred me staying apart from them than they seeing his violence on me. Eventually I went for my children when he began to deny me access to them. Even stopped them from going to school, so I would not be visiting them in school.

The day I went for my children with welfare people, he said that for the fact that I was taking the children away, he would never assist with their welfare or anything. And he stood by his word for years. My children were minors. I was tired of fighting. I was a wreck. We began to sleep in my brother's sitting room floor. Until some how God showed up through the people I had helped and we moved to a 2 bedroom.
I suffered ooo.
I really did.
The things I went through.
But God has been faithful.
I have the most wonderful children ever.
Good children who stood by me.
Tightly knit in love for one another. God fearing, devoted to the things of the lord and extremely smart.

That reminds me.please guys help me vote my daughter to win this competition. Open the link and see how she wrote and recited this spoken word/ poem.
https://sageatwords.com/vote/spoken-word-contest/1449

tollyboy5:

I'm so sorry for you to have such terrible experience.
I think he was far too older than you, your parent should have guided you properly.
All is well tho.
It's safer to be single with peace of mind than to be with a beast.
I hope you're doing well now?

he was 6 years older, but like I said I was naive and I hid a lot of things from my parents because I knew that if I told them, they would seperate us. So I suffered in silence

Sirchiboy:
1st girl: She said no sex and I asked her what does she has to offer apart from sex.
She couldn't say anything..
Very mumu girl forming big but she stay in one room with her married elder brother in Egbelu.
I like her sha and I thought I will marry her but
After I don knack her then we depart.

Second girl:Na through parole I meet her and we became friends .
One day out of the blues, she came to my house that her room mate chase out and I agreed to accommodate her but two weeks I have to chase her because she is stingy and wicked.
I gave her rules concerning food.
That we should be managing.
This girl will mix two soup together and eat.
Imagine cooking three pots of soup and within 5 days all the soup finished.
She will eat and wash plates so that I won't know .
Soap and paste will finish she won't bother to buy.
I have to chase her away. Some girls no just get sense.
Any girl i must I , must stay with me for sometime let me know her level of financial discipline and management.

The first girls karma will forever haunt you. What yeye table do you have that anybody will be bringing anything on? You know say you no like person then leave her with no karma attached. Right now you are battling devil's in your head, you feel like you are running in a tunnel , you can see the light at the end but you seem to never be able to reach it. It's cos of your wickedness. Your mind is playing you but you tell yourself it's just your imagination. You are a wicked person besides this girl. You are a , you think you are smart but you know it's not smartness. You use people. It will take 17 yrs of penance for your mind to stop tormenting you. You king Saul? It's not about your success just like him. 17 yrs mark it.

tollyboy5:

I'm so sorry for you to have such terrible experience.
I think he was far too older than you, your parent should have guided you properly.
All is well tho.
It's safer to be single with peace of mind than to be with a beast.
I hope you're doing well now?

Please guys help me vote my daughter to win this spoken word/ poem competition
God bless you all

https://sageatwords.com/vote/spoken-word-contest/1449

All of una na lynus mba 😂😂

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mrkenny05:


We, nice man still dey,
But your 'kind' hardly see ...

NOTE : KIND ...

without being self delusional but with pure clarity of purpose,
You meet us,
But we are far a rare gem,
Hard to come by,
Often misjudged by outward..
But we know who we are,
Silently living life,
Contented with little we have,
Praying for more to come ...
Living a crime free life, cos we never force things to our way....

We are serious commiter to any relationship,
Business, partnership and love life....

Ohh,

Where would you meet us....
With this our yearly comment...

E-mail for an enquiry.....

you are absolutely correct with the above analysis. But like they say, life no balance. Opposite usually always attracts. Don't know why🤦

theenchanter:
don't. Wait, don't dump her yet.

Girls/ladies/women are all the same, they communicate through body language, expecting u to decipher them.

If u dump her cos of this reason, the next female will do worse. Just chill and understand this female psychology.

I get where you're coming from, brother, and I agree to an extent about the universality of this behaviour in the female psyche and the importance of patiently learning to understand them.

That said, enabling this can be dangerous for their relationship, and others like it, in the long run. The inability or unwillingness to communicate openly and truthfully often breeds resentment, which jeopardizes the relationship’s well-being, and signals emotional immaturity.

Let me share a recent experience from my own life that gave me a glimpse into this behaviour pattern:

I had a visitor recently who stayed over. I had to go to work, so I woke up early, she was still sleeping when I went to fixed myself breakfast, and, since I was already in the kitchen, decided to prepare something for the both of us. That took longer than usual. Breakfast served. It was already 7:30, and she asked me if I was running late. I said yes.

Here’s the key part: at some point, I realized there was something wrong with the shirt I'd picked, which required ironing another one to switch. While I was ironing, she was scrolling through her phone in the same room. The thought that crossed my mind was this: She just asked me if I was running late, which I said yes, saw me swap the shirt I picked initially, and now sees me ironing the new pick—how does it not occur to her to help me iron while I jump in the shower to save time? After all, I made her breakfast and it contributed to why I'm running late.

This is exactly the kind of thinking that assumes the other person should telepathically decipher your needs—and it seldom ends well.

It was a bit annoying but also amusing because I realized I could’ve simply communicated: Hey babe, could you please help me press this shirt while I hop in the shower? Thanks. How hard is that really?

Back to our brother and his woman, I think a better approach would be for him to explain that he’s not a mind-reader and that she needs to express her needs clearly. That's the mature thing to do. At the same time, he should create a safe space for open, honest dialogue. Relationships deepen when both partners learn to communicate effectively.

Sirchiboy:
1st girl: She said no sex and I asked her what does she has to offer apart from sex.
She couldn't say anything..
Very mumu girl forming big but she stay in one room with her married elder brother in Egbelu.
I like her sha and I thought I will marry her but
After I don knack her then we depart.

Second girl:Na through parole I meet her and we became friends .
One day out of the blues, she came to my house that her room mate chase out and I agreed to accommodate her but two weeks I have to chase her because she is stingy and wicked.
I gave her rules concerning food.
That we should be managing.
This girl will mix two soup together and eat.
Imagine cooking three pots of soup and within 5 days all the soup finished.
She will eat and wash plates so that I won't know .
Soap and paste will finish she won't bother to buy.
I have to chase her away. Some girls no just get sense.
Any girl i must I , must stay with me for sometime let me know her level of financial discipline and management.

I pity girls that are not genuinely born again.
Male and female birds of same feathers flocks together.
After you have commited fornication and adultery with them severally, who will marry the non virgins

Kukutente23:


See taqiyya
What is the business of an islamist with love
The topic is love Alfa not marriage and divorce

You will die before you have sense!

Remijuice:

And she let u go? Maybe she was not in love.
It's fine.

She was never the problem, she was really I love, travelled interstate to see me thrice, a very far distance at that
But I knew in my mind we wouldn’t last if I couldn’t pull some strings

nifemi25:
She is a divorcee while am married... We are into friends with benefits..... I couldn't believe it when she called my wife and revealed to her she is the second wife... Even told her she is a friend on Facebook and will like to meet her so as to be a friend.... I sharperly blocked her on all social media and also blocked her getting access to me...

I hope you will love it if your wife does the same thing