NewStats: 3,265,128 , 8,185,747 topics. Date: Friday, 13 June 2025 at 03:13 PM 13l4e

Hello Nairaland,


I have a serious confession to make and this has been killing me emotionally and I can’t keep it anymore.

It all started at age 14, I happen to be the only male child and seeing myself among my sisters I started developing a kind of strange affection for them which is really strange and evil.
My sisters are really beautiful indeed to be honest.

I share room with my elder sister, and there was this night I woke up and realized she was on a phone call with her boyfriend and at the same time using her fingers to play with her vagina, but when I saw her she tried to get my attention to have sex with her but I refused.


Honestly the next day I didn’t inform any of my parents about this and I kept it confidential.

I thought that’s all, but afterwards, whenever am alone then I feel like having sex, I’ll become Hot to the extent that, I easily get moody after some few minutes without satisfying myself.

It went on and on until one day I couldn’t hold it anymore and I had to take my elder sister panties and wrapped it round my penis, and this is where it all started, unfortunately I had this idea from no where that I can use that as a means of satisfying myself without any girl.

From the beginning it feels good to me and honestly I was enjoying it, gradually I improved on it.


This is the journey to my addiction…..I started Masturbating with ladies pants everyday at any little opportunity I get.

I can masturbate more than 5 times in a day.

Am an introvert so this really hunt me more and more. It got to a time I feel within myself that it’s evil but I couldn’t talk to anybody about it because I was afraid even my parent couldn’t like me again so I kept it on the low.

I did everything possible to stop this addiction but all failed.

Sometimes I feel a strong energy around me, mostly when am alone and that’s the exact time I’ll start thinking about woman, and this caused me to love porn.


Honestly this hunts me amicably so I decided to have a girlfriend at age 18yrs thinking that will rather help me stop masturbating but it became worst, I even ended up being a womanizer, chasing girls everywhere.

Truth be told, my worst enemy now is Masturbation, I am 28yrs now with a woman and two handsome boys but ridiculously, I still masturbate, it’s eating me up and am getting depressed over this addiction.

Masturbation is reducing me, both physical and spiritually, I feel drained.

Everything is shutting down on me, and I have no one to talk to about this, am really scared my wife will get to know about this and right now things are getting out of hand.

Am facing a lot of trauma, my business isn’t moving anymore and I can’t stop Masturbating.

I can be having sex with my wife and still be masturbating.

This have caused me to have no limit over my sexual life, and whenever am having sex, I feel an extra energy within me that makes me sex for so long without getting tired.


It’s killing me slowly within, right now I’ve developed a waist problem and I don’t know the next damage this will cause me again.


Please everyone here, am pleading you all to help me with a solution, I need help to overcome this, I’ve confessed this to several pastors but couldn’t get any solution……

Please nairalanders, help me.

Your case is beyond comprehension.

ONLY GOD CAN HELP YOU NOT PASTOR. GO TO GOD NOT PASTOR. CONFESS YOUR SIN TO GOD AND ASK HIM TO GIVE YOU THE SPIRIT TO OVERCOME WHAT IS EATING YOU UP AND THEN TAKE STEPS TO STOP IT. FIND INTEREST IN OTHER THINGS LIKE FOOTBALL OTHER GAMES, WATCH FAMILY MOVIES AND ALWAYS BE ON GUARD TO RESIST THE URGE TO MASTURBATE.

First, well done for seeking help here, though it is not the right place.

You were brought up in an unhealthy home where you were abused as a child, and should seek professional psychiatric help before you are completely destroyed.

Mastubation is normal along most people.. but yours is extreme ooo.. my own I went for deliverance and prayers before I stopped.

There are 3 layers to Masturbation.

— Physical effect.
— Mental addiction
— Spiritual subjugation

Masturbation begins as casual fun on the physical level. At this level, you see it as a mere activity that leaves you tired.

You gradually get hooked at the mental level. This is the point where you can no longer resist your cravings. You become addicted.

Subconsciously, this addiction establishes a connection to your spiritual being. You become spiritually rooted and enslaved to this addiction. At this stage, each ejaculation leaves you physically and spiritually weak. (You get to a point where you can barely your spiritual activities once you gain physical consciousness. This is a topic for another day.)

To quit masturbation, you need to, firstly attack it at the spiritual level.

You start with self awareness, then self discipline and finally self-intuition on your spiritual life.

I would advise you and any other person facing similar addiction to search on telegram and the channel called IAJ DAILY.

Search for masturbation on the channel and consume every information you get there.

briandermot:
pls explain the spiritual subjugation

I would advise you to go to that channel call IAJ DAILY on telegram and them and ask this questions there, that space is a space for men who are on the journey of self-development and general wellness.

First you will start using touch light phone first then Start fasting 6-3pm everyday for one month,but in each day you break your fast eat only fruit and water on the next day after fasting then eat food like that. You eat after every one day then me after 15days into it. Don't forget to pray one hour every night from 2am to 3am .

It's either you talk to your wife about it or you go for therapy

One certain time our Jesus Christ went to the house of a certain Pharisee and then a known sinner came to him and poured an brought an alabaster jar perfume crying and using her tears to wet his feet and using her hair to dry his feet and anointing his feet with the expensive oil
The Pharisee was like it this man was really a prophet he should know who that this woman is a sinner and he replied saying
Two people owed a certain moneylender 50denarii and 500 denarii and her pardoned them who do you think will love him the most and Simon said the one who owes 500 denarii.. hehehe
Jesus can help you if you are willing to confess your sins ..he said cast all your burdens upon me and I will give you rest..some will say my way of proclaiming the gospel isn’t right but Rome wasn’t built in a day..the more you spend time knowing and loving Jesus Christ the more all your burdens and pain and everything heaviness you hold inside of you disappears and the more you grow because he loved you first he is just waiting for you to come to him ..he has been since
My own is to do introduction between you both and that I have done the next one is for you to take the step of faith..don’t be ashamed and give him a try and before the end of the year you will testify about a whole lot more things..you can pray on your own but if you decide I can drop my email to pray with you and for you and God will help us ..
May the peace of God rest with you and have a blessed day
Amem 🙏

Avoid triggers like your life depends on it.

Damnnn niggar

And what makes you all think Masturbation is a bad thing

First you have to have this mind set that Masturbation is not a bad thing
You know the funny thing when you begin to see Masturbation as a normal thing that is when you start limiting it without knowing

Oh My God 😮

Your problem is psychological. You have blamed a lot of things on masturbation so your current reality is tied to it. It's not about the masturbation, it's about how you have interpreted it....

While masturbation is a bad addiction, it has nothing to do with all those things you mentioned. The moment you realize that you'll make progress in life. Give your business attention. Give your family attention. That way you'll give masturbation less attention. Your goal should be to reduce the number of times you do it till it posses no threat to you.

To understand what I mean, many people blame masturbation for erectile dysfunction. But here you are blaming it for lasting long in bed. If done seldomly, masturbation doesn't have anything to do with other aspects of your life.

Of a truth, most of the people you know, male and female, engage in masturbation. So don't think you're alone

Since it doesn't affect your sexual activity with your wife I believe it's still a little problem, have sex with her twice everyday

Morning n night

I believe with that u won't even have d energy to masturbate

I can be having sex with my wife and still be masturbating

U say..??🙄🙄

Wanted saying you should get a partner but you're already married.

I think the best thing now is to avoid being idle even for 30mins. Try making friend with more males and if u can stay off internet, fine.

But this one u said you'll be knacking and same time hitting the meat, don't know if all the suggestions will work though. But just challenge yourself

Reading. . .

It is a spiritual battle my brother, by mere abstinence you can't quit masturbation. Pray seriously, occupy your mind always with positive things, if the urge comes, rise and change your schedules immediately.
40% of humans are suffering from masturbation and they don't know how to quit. To some, it's nature; which of course is nature, but I bet you it's a spiritual weakling.
I'm still battling with man, but I realized staying at home always contributes a lot and drugs as well. What do I know? Since I got myself engaged outside with a job I've been able to control it to a max.

Continue

The Bible says that if any part of your body causes you to sin .................. Well you know the rest

Mastubation is hell
Only addicts will understand
We have literally lost hope on stopping
..........but I dont mastubate with women pants or get attracted to my sister. That's a whole new level

You only need discipline and grace to stop it.

You will be healed in Jesus name

You're the only one that can Save yourself brotherman goodluck

Make I pitch for here.

Go Marry multiple wives

Any need to post those panties😀😀😀

EagleMenage:
Hello Nairaland,


I have a serious confession to make and this has been killing me emotionally and I can’t keep it anymore.

It all started at age 14, I happen to be the only male child and seeing myself among my sisters I started developing a kind of strange affection for them which is really strange and evil.
My sisters are really beautiful indeed to be honest.

I share room with my elder sister, and there was this night I woke up and realized she was on a phone call with her boyfriend and at the same time using her fingers to play with her vagina, but when I saw her she tried to get my attention to have sex with her but I refused.


Honestly the next day I didn’t inform any of my parents about this and I kept it confidential.

I thought that’s all, but afterwards, whenever am alone then I feel like having sex, I’ll become Hot to the extent that, I easily get moody after some few minutes without satisfying myself.

It went on and on until one day I couldn’t hold it anymore and I had to take my elder sister panties and wrapped it round my penis, and this is where it all started, unfortunately I had this idea from no where that I can use that as a means of satisfying myself without any girl.

From the beginning it feels good to me and honestly I was enjoying it, gradually I improved on it.


This is the journey to my addiction…..I started Masturbating with ladies pants everyday at any little opportunity I get.

I can masturbate more than 5 times in a day.

Am an introvert so this really hunt me more and more. It got to a time I feel within myself that it’s evil but I couldn’t talk to anybody about it because I was afraid even my parent couldn’t like me again so I kept it on the low.

I did everything possible to stop this addiction but all failed.

Sometimes I feel a strong energy around me, mostly when am alone and that’s the exact time I’ll start thinking about woman, and this caused me to love porn.


Honestly this hunts me amicably so I decided to have a girlfriend at age 18yrs thinking that will rather help me stop masturbating but it became worst, I even ended up being a womanizer, chasing girls everywhere.

Truth be told, my worst enemy now is Masturbation, I am 28yrs now with a woman and two handsome boys but ridiculously, I still masturbate, it’s eating me up and am getting depressed over this addiction.

Masturbation is reducing me, both physical and spiritually, I feel drained.

Everything is shutting down on me, and I have no one to talk to about this, am really scared my wife will get to know about this and right now things are getting out of hand.

Am facing a lot of trauma, my business isn’t moving anymore and I can’t stop Masturbating.

I can be having sex with my wife and still be masturbating.

This have caused me to have no limit over my sexual life, and whenever am having sex, I feel an extra energy within me that makes me sex for so long without getting tired.


It’s killing me slowly within, right now I’ve developed a waist problem and I don’t know the next damage this will cause me again.


Please everyone here, am pleading you all to help me with a solution, I need help to overcome this, I’ve confessed this to several pastors but couldn’t get any solution……

Please nairalanders, help me.

go and take black bullet

EagleMenage:
Hello Nairaland,


I have a serious confession to make and this has been killing me emotionally and I can’t keep it anymore.

It all started at age 14, I happen to be the only male child and seeing myself among my sisters I started developing a kind of strange affection for them which is really strange and evil.
My sisters are really beautiful indeed to be honest.

I share room with my elder sister, and there was this night I woke up and realized she was on a phone call with her boyfriend and at the same time using her fingers to play with her vagina, but when I saw her she tried to get my attention to have sex with her but I refused.


Honestly the next day I didn’t inform any of my parents about this and I kept it confidential.

I thought that’s all, but afterwards, whenever am alone then I feel like having sex, I’ll become Hot to the extent that, I easily get moody after some few minutes without satisfying myself.

It went on and on until one day I couldn’t hold it anymore and I had to take my elder sister panties and wrapped it round my penis, and this is where it all started, unfortunately I had this idea from no where that I can use that as a means of satisfying myself without any girl.

From the beginning it feels good to me and honestly I was enjoying it, gradually I improved on it.


This is the journey to my addiction…..I started Masturbating with ladies pants everyday at any little opportunity I get.

I can masturbate more than 5 times in a day.

Am an introvert so this really hunt me more and more. It got to a time I feel within myself that it’s evil but I couldn’t talk to anybody about it because I was afraid even my parent couldn’t like me again so I kept it on the low.

I did everything possible to stop this addiction but all failed.

Sometimes I feel a strong energy around me, mostly when am alone and that’s the exact time I’ll start thinking about woman, and this caused me to love porn.


Honestly this hunts me amicably so I decided to have a girlfriend at age 18yrs thinking that will rather help me stop masturbating but it became worst, I even ended up being a womanizer, chasing girls everywhere.

Truth be told, my worst enemy now is Masturbation, I am 28yrs now with a woman and two handsome boys but ridiculously, I still masturbate, it’s eating me up and am getting depressed over this addiction.

Masturbation is reducing me, both physical and spiritually, I feel drained.

Everything is shutting down on me, and I have no one to talk to about this, am really scared my wife will get to know about this and right now things are getting out of hand.

Am facing a lot of trauma, my business isn’t moving anymore and I can’t stop Masturbating.

I can be having sex with my wife and still be masturbating.

This have caused me to have no limit over my sexual life, and whenever am having sex, I feel an extra energy within me that makes me sex for so long without getting tired.


It’s killing me slowly within, right now I’ve developed a waist problem and I don’t know the next damage this will cause me again.


Please everyone here, am pleading you all to help me with a solution, I need help to overcome this, I’ve confessed this to several pastors but couldn’t get any solution……

Please nairalanders, help me.

I had the same problem bro. But mine was worse than yours. I am 36 now yet I can't stop and my love for women is so so extreme